It's been 8 months since I left his cheating a$. Why does it still hurt?

Question

We were together for 5 1/2 years, engaged to be married, owned a home together.

Answer 1

So he cheated that's no reason to leave.

He made a mistake and you should have worked thru it instead of giving up so quick.

Answer 2

You answered your own question with your additional details.

Answer 3

Its because you spent over 5 years of your life with him! its sad but think of it as a good thing.. and you can now find the right one who isnt a cheater.. I know plenty of people who have gone through this and come out of it a lot stronger! It will deffinately take time but you will get over it :) Good Luck xx

Answer 4

You were betrayed...it will probably always sting a little, but it gets better.

I still wonder what I could have done to prevent it from happening, but I can't change the past. I'm better off now and you are too. Believe that.

Answer 5

Because you are still in love with the IMAGE you have of what he WAS, and you have as yet to acknowledge that you made an error.... all of us hate to be wrong, particularly with regard to our choices in a partner.  When you accept that, you can move on.... simple

Answer 6

If anyone can really answer that ??? or give an answer as to how to make the hurt stop- they will be rich.

It hurts because you loved him and were betrayed.  They say that it takes just as much time to heal froma relationship as you were in in the relationship, so you have about 5 more years to go.

Sorry hang in there  

Answer 7

There is nothing harder than betrayal from someone who say's they love you.  It feels like someone punched you so hard in the gut that not only do feel pain, but that you can't breath.  The soul breaks into a million pieces.  Time, it takes a lot of time.  You will get though this, I promise

Answer 8

Because you all spent 5 1/2 years together! It's hard to get over someone that you have been with so long! It's going to take a long time because you all planned your lives around eachother. Love is powerful! So when you aren't powered anymore you have to find something to impower you. Try doing something you really enjoy like painting, writing, playing sports etc.

Answer 9

Thats what happens when you truly and honestly commit and devote yourself to another person - they become a part of your life - like you said it's been 8 months - it will get easier and better - i promise you - stay strong and keep smiling!

Answer 10

8 mths....80mths. The pain may never truly go completely away. it just takes up smaller space as time goes on.Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 11

Because you are having a hard time accepting that this happened to you. But better it happened when it did than find out later after you were married and had children together. You are better off knowing now even though the pain is hard to get over. Even though you hate him now you did at one point love him enough to marry him and that makes it hard on you.

Answer 12

it pro-bally hurts, cause you may think, you drove him to cheat, or it was your fault?don't think that way, he don't deserve to steal the joy from your life, and that's exactly what your letting him do, by letting it bother you?get over him girl, hes not worth the time or the effort your putting on-missing him.