It's been almost 2 years and i still cry over his death..?

Question

Well.. my brother's best friend died in a car crash.. the drive was drunk, and since i was little he knew me, almost like a brother since he was around a lot. I never got to see him before he died really because his family moved far away and him and my brother didn't hang out anymore.. he was a twin and since he was a part of my childhood that was gone before i could see him again.. it felt horrible. I never cried as much as i needed and it hurts a lot, i was also a cutter and stopped (nobody knew i was cutting except for a few friends) how do i cope..?I've been so depressed lately and it's getting to me..

Answer 1

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In the midst of life, we are in death...

Living and dying are part of our life cycle and we can't have one without the other. But the thought of dying or losing a loved one is always terrifying. When someone we love actually dies, it can be devastating...

What is grief?

Grief is the word for the emotions you have when someone you care about dies. It's different for everyone but common feelings are:

Numbness - especially if the person's death came as a shock. It can be hard to believe they're gone. We may act like they're still alive at first.

Guilt - sometimes people regret the way they acted around the person who's died or even start to blame themselves for their death.

Frustration - someone you care about is gone and nothing you can do will bring them back, this can make you angry and confused. Sometimes we even get angry with the person who died, for leaving us.

Depressed - it's normal to feel very sad when someone dies.

Tiredness - problems sleeping or loss of appetite.

All of these are normal feelings. Most of them are unavoidable. Go easy on yourself.

How long does grief last?

You'll never forget the person who's died. You might always feel sad when you think of them. But as time goes on you may have memories that make you happy. Things will definitely get easier.

The first year is the hardest for most of us. But there's no right or wrong length of time to grieve. Just because you feel better quickly, doesn't mean you loved them any less.

How do you cope when someone you love dies?

Getting over grief might seem impossible at first, but it just takes time. It's not easy, but people do cope with grief and become happy again once they've worked through it.

If you feel you're stuck grieving longer than you'd like to be - or that it's taking over your life - then get some support.

Talking about your feelings and the person you've lost is usually a big help. Many people find counselling helps too.

Hope This Helps.

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Answer 2

look i know how u feel loosin some one sux alot!!! but wat u should keep in mind is that everytime u cry or something ur not letting him rest!! it was the same thing i cry for my cousin everytime until i stop cause u dont let them rest hes watchinu form above n he will alway be there for u! stop cryin n be happy for him he wount like to see u cry no more! n dont be dum n cut ur self thats dum try to move on n be happy u are goin to miss him but just remember the good times

good luck

Answer 3

im sorry for your loss, of course its normal to still be emotional about his lost. instead of keeping your emotions locked up, talk to some love ones of his. Trust me they will understand, and im sure they would love the company/ remembrance of their son/ brother!

Answer 4

Crying is normal and healthy. if you have tears to shed over this.  please do so and you will be relieved.  Note that anything that is of life, will one day die even you yourself, your turn will come. Mankind has got no control over death,  It's God's plan. Remeber, God allowed his only Son Jesus to die so shall we. memories of our departed ones live with us for as long as we live but take heart bearing in mind that we shall also follow suit.