It's just HIDEOUS?................?

Question

I’m always complaining to my bf about how cold it is at my job when my boss is there and how he turns down the thermostat to almost 30 degrees and for a person who was born and raise in the sunshine state FL (Miami) that’s like Alaska cold.

So he surprised me about a week ago with a sweater. And I thought it was very sweet, and thoughtful, but its only one problem it’s hideous, it’s like black with a huge orange on the front with green and orange stripes on the back. It’s like those stupid ugly Christmas sweaters that you see people wear at the office Christmas party except its fruit. But because I love him and it’s the thought that counts I thanked him and lied about how much I loved it.

So today he came over to my place and found the sweater he gave me on the floor of my closet with the tags still on it. And first he asked me why I wasn’t wearing the sweater and I lied and told him how much I loved it and how I was planning on wearing it on Friday. Then he tried to make me wear it out to the movies, and I kept telling him nicely how I would weather save it for work(so I could just take the tags off and hang up in my closet and say I wore it). And then he caught on to the fact that i didn’t like the sweater. And he got so upset, and he seemed genuinely hurt.

So I got naked and put on the sweater he brought me. and straddled him and told him how sorry I was that I didn’t know that the sweater meant that much to him. and it was working at first cause I FELT IT

But all of sudden he pushed me away and told me that s*x is not going to fix it and he left. i really think that he’s being I big baby about it.

Your thoughts, what should I do to fix it, or should I even try to fix it?

Answer 1

honestly, i think youre the one whose being immature about it, you cant fix lying to him with s*x!?! you shouldn't have lied to him in the first place. you need to go to him and do the same thing only with your clothes on.

Answer 2

lol okay, here's what you do but it's gonna take some acting..are you up to the task?

Get him a shirt or sweater, tie, or anything you KNOW he'll think is the ugliest thing this side of H@ll...wrap it up and present with an 'I'm sorry' card....

..when he opens it you can immediately start gushing about how when you saw it you KNEW it was perfect for him and please, please, please put it on as you can hardly wait to see him in it..

He'll know exactly how you felt about the sweater (but didn't want to hurt his feelings...)

If he acts less then happy over it play back his words or actions re: how hurt you are.....

then pout and say he can only 'fix' it if...yup, you guessed it.Don't forget the big ol' wink.....

See if he catches on...if he's smart all will be forgiven......and people here need to lighten up..it's a sweater for Pete's sake and the guy is being a baby....validation over a sweater? jeeze......

Answer 3

What you should have done, was take the sweater to work, leave it there and wear it there and no where else.  If someone said something about how ugly it was, you could make some nasty comment about how freaking cold the place was and as soon as it was warmer you'd take the ugly thing off.

You upset your honey, and it may be a long long time before he surprises you with a gift again.  

Tell him how sorry you are that you lied.  Tell him that you didn't want to hurt his feelings, telling him you didn't like it, because it was a really sweet thing for him to do, and see if he'll forgive you.

Answer 4

Well, guys have common knowledge that women use s*x as a tool. Even if you dont, its in the back of our minds. After what you described it would seem that you were using s*x to diffuse the situation.

See we men, do have feelings and emotions, but rarely are they validated. Its frustrating. I am sure he was looking for emotional validation. His feelings are probably a little hurt too. He wanted to give you something special. Give him a heart felt apology and give reasons. Thank him for his intention. Be honest too. Tell him you really dont like the sweater. Dont sugar coat anything. Make him his favorite dinner. Love on him. Make your apology real. That should work.

Answer 5

OK, so the sweater is hideous.  SO WHAT?

He thought enough about you to try to give you something nice.  Who cares that it's not your style?

You know, when you have kids they are gonna give you weird gifts that you might not like but mean the world to THEM.  Would you deflate them like you did your guy?  I don't blame him for being upset.

Let this be a lesson to you!   And quit using s*x to manipulate him, you give all us girls a bad name!