It's so frustrating!?

Question

I just have to know...do ANY of you women out there struggle to get your husband/fiance/boyfriend/etc. to be sympathetic/understanding during "that time of the month"? Is it just me, or does it seem like (during that week) the relationship between a man and a woman becomes tense, hostile, confusing, and...well..frustrating, to say the least? I will be the first to admit that I am at fault for being so emotional, but is it impossible for men to understand emotions? My fiance almost freezes up when he comes in contact with emotions. If he doesn't know how to deal with them, he seems to brush them off as petty, "girly" emotions that SHOULD be easily controlled. That attitude then turns into tension between the two of us; while I am desperately trying to make him understand what's going on with me, he is oblivious to my feelings and has convinced himself that I am in the wrong...JUST because I'm the one having a period! (By the way, have you ever noticed that he automatically blames every little thing on your period? Is that not frustrating to hear?!)

I realize that this question seeks no definitive answer, but I would love to hear some of your stories/experiences/sympathies! Don't get me wrong, I have a WONDERFUL relationship with an extremely loving, supportive man, but the bottom line is this...he's still a man, and he still doesn't understand much about my period!

Ladies, can you relate?

Answer 1

Of course... Think about it. Our hormones are raging, and theirs too and we clash. They brush it off as PMS and we get easily ticked so the relationship becomes tense. Tension leads to us looking haggered. Which leads to us believing that the men think we are ugly (also because we are bloated and unhappy). So we get more stressed, and more haggered. The cycle begins to eat itself until we believe we are beautiful again. Once we do, then we act it and act happy and the boys comply, acting happy too. The tension goes away and everything goes back to normal. It happens to everyone.

Answer 2

hey sorry to hear that he doesn't support you like he should. well i am in school, and guys are always getting mad lol when we have our raging hormones, but we just can't help it.  

Answer 3

Believe it or not it is just as frustrating for the guys. You have to understand the thought processes of a man. A man thinks logically. His life and actions are ruled by it, just as a woman's life and actions are ruled by emotion. Guys hardly (if ever) have use for emotional thinking, since they don't use it, they don't see a reason to give it a very high priority. This is not to say that guys aren't emotional, or that women aren't logical. It is just 2 different thought processes 180 degrees apart. That is why guys don't understand women and women don't understand men.