It's so stupid and it doesn't make any sense to me!?

Question

ok,the type of girls who I find really attractive don't like me

and I don't like the type of girls who find me attractive.

I'm really not trying to be cocky here but I'm just really confused about this,let me talk about myself first,I look very cute(I heard this many many time from loads of girls),I have skinny body but toned,I'm funny,I'm smart and I always were some fashionable clothes,and I usually flirt with girls just for fun and being funny,I'm also kinda shy and don't just talk to people without knowing them.and I'm still virgin I'm just waiting for the girl who I really love,I have a few opportunity to loss it,so it really is my choice.I'm romantic but never show it thu.and all my friends see me as a very cool guy.

the type of girls who I like are,cute,pretty,shorter than me,skinnier than me,very girly,a bit funny,pure,not sluty,clever,artistic,fashionable,romant... likes children,abit shy.

now the type of girls who usually find me atractive are S****y,not nice,usually very arrogant,way older than me or way younger than me,bit-ch,usually very s**y some hot.

so idk what to do to get attention from the type of girls who I really like?

Answer 1

Well

i suppose its because of all the things you know you are its a fact that all the girls you like whoa re quite shy and laid back compared to the S****y girls probably feel your a bit too good for them or like these S****y girls a bit over shadowed if you get me try and make more of an effort to come across as a genuine guy and then they might see that you don't go for that type of girl

hope it helpsx

Answer 2

It depends on the type of girls your into. And the type of guys that they are into. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well, it's similar with boys for me. I just want someone who would be nice, make me laugh, not stupid (hah), social, talk about things that I find interesting (AND I like football as a matter of fact), a little romantic, likes doing sports because that's what I do, doesn't try to pet me, likes children, doesn't push me, doesn't drink too much, talks what he thinks and so on. But always every time I end up with someone who drinks way too much at parties, talks c**p, doesn't care much about stuff, arrogant, wants to party and so on and oh how I hate that all! No no no boys like this. Can you help me?

Well, I think that I am not S****y and not a ******. I have a lot of good friends, we get along very well. I get good grades, I do a lot of sports, play guitar and anything like this, I really am a usual neat student. I love life and I enjoy it. But despite of this all every boy that has asked me out has been a real, well, sorry but it's true, a real cra*phole. Oh why?

But to you... I guess the reason might be that the nice girls who you like doesn't know you enough. It may sound weird but sometimes helps something stupid like hearing that he has a sister and his dog's name is Bobby or something hehe. Also I would want to have someone who talks about what he thinks. Don't be too serious about things, just be yourself because you have nothing to hide, and things will end up very nicely. They might be a little scared because maybe you're known as a bit of a flirter and they've seen you around with those other girls. Maybe they have no idea that it's actually not what you like. Try to make friends with them and let them get to know you, trust me, the rest will come naturally.

Answer 4

Well one thing that could put off the girl you want is if you flirt with S****y girls, this can put girls off as they think you'd prefer a girl who goes around after every other boy, so make sure the girl you flirt with hasn't got a bad reputation with other girls (boys aren't usaully upto date with girl gossip lol).Or maybe the flirting is a problem to the girl you want, if you're gunna flirt, flirt with the girl you want, and try not to flirt too much with other girls.I can't honestly find anything else wrong with what you're doing, so hope this helps :), cause you sound nice :D.  

Answer 5

There's probably some sort of vibe that you're giving off that's attracting your "wrong" sort of girl. I think you need to do a little self evaluation.. Besides that, I also think your standards are too set.. there's nothing wrong with having standards but being too set on one certain type of girl could distract you from someone who could really be perfect for you! But, it seems like you are young and now is the time to just live it up and find out who you are.

Answer 6

I had this problem in high school.

Develop a relationship with one girl and use soft corruption. Charm her with smiles. Be nice but don't stress it by being too overboard - some women don't like the traditional aspects of a relationship such as being bought with candy, movies tickets, and other things.

I don't think you should flirt hardcore until you really get to know them before coming really good friends. When you're at that point, it's make or break a relationship. You just showed them who you are and what you can be and you can't let it run in the direction of being a friend with them. You'll be **** out of luck if you do. I figure the best way is to be sweet with words and action. I usually have my voice a little softer and calm (not trying to do it though, don't force it to be that way. should just come if you're not trying to speak amazingly loud. make sure you're audible though and that you don't sound g*y/touchy feely). You could do small favors for them if they ever needed help. Most important of all is that you need to be there for a girl when she's going through rough times and needs someone to reach out to. I'm not saying take advantage of her when she's vulnerable, but I kinda am. Just slowly sink thoughts that maybe you're a good guy except if you get "I wish more guys were like you", you're probably screwed. So don't put too much emphasis on showing her your best qualities when she's distraught. Just comfort her.

Show her that you're a man. Don't be a little immature ***** in front of her or anybody and think about what you're doing if you have to. Try not to argue and if you do, do it with civility. Don't let your composure falter.

Really, you just need to show her that you have a good time with a good girl and maybe she'll see that she's having one as well.

Answer 7

I think the number one problem is that you aren't considering that the girls you like are more shy than you are. She girls would do anything to get attention of the guy they like, but they are too shy - enough so that when they do have your attention, they don't know what to do and flake out and/or say things they don't mean to push you back away again. The sluttier girls are more forward and less shy, so of course they're going to seem to be into you. But they probably aren't so into you, but would like to be in your pants. Then again, I was a shy girl who for the longest time fell into the "Shy" category, but when I started attempting to step out of my bubble I started being called a w***e, but all I was doing was wearing clothing I liked the fit of.

Pay more attention to body language than to preconceptions, and don't be afraid to make the first move. You might find out that the girl you like has liked you for a long time, or that one of the "S****y" girls doesn't act the part she's been titled. And if the "s**t" does act the part, make a point to put some distance between the two of you.