It almost feels he's my real dad.

Question

My parents are divorced.

i have one biological brother and 3 sisters that are half.

2 are living with me, my mom and step dad.

1 lives in Manitoba. and i'm in saskatchewan.

My brother used to live with my dad, but moved in with me and this fam.

For the first while living with us he was in denial for his biological dad being his dad..period. and was convinced that his step-dad was his real dad..period.

Our real dad is a hard ***, and doesnt spend time with either of us at all. My brother quit going over their when he moved, but i still go over.

He doesnt want to spend time with me, but is trying to impress his new girl friend and 4 kids that hes "it" and ignoring me. Is saddens me to death..:(.

He even started forgetting about his daughter from manitoba that he sees once a year.. and is all over his gf's children... like he's one inpressing his own daughters and son..like he doesn need to spend time with us any more...

can i please get some advice on this, i am going overboard.. and im only 15 trying to figre this all out.

my step dad is the best guy you will ever meet, and does everything for all of his kids, and loves us all to death. But we only get to see him every other month since he works over seas for a month at a time. ..

... i have mixed feelings for my dad(s)... and need advice

--------PLease help.. .. thank-you

Answer 1

I think that you are at a tough age and trying to establish your identity as a person. The man who cares enough to teach you right from wrong and make sure you have everything you need is a father figure. You sound emotionally starved for the companionship of your father figure.  As far as your biological father is concerned he sounds like he has dropped the ball in raising you. He's moving on. This new girl friend, if she accepts his behavior toward the family he's already started, then she eventually will get the same. Try talking with him and tell him how you feel about his behavior. Be the adult, he's not. Adults confront each other when there is a problem and discuss their feelings and try to come to a resolution.

Answer 2

Find Jesus Christ.

Answer 3

If he is the one that is raising you and treats you good, like a dad should then he is your dad. Your biolical father is exactly that. Remember, anybody can be a father. It takes a real man to be a "Dad". Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

Just pray about the situation

Answer 5

My parents got divorced a while ago and I have the exact opposite problem! Your dad seems like a real jerk! You should try to talk to him about it! If he still ignores you than something is really wrong! Talk to him first and than all you can do is hope! Tell him how you really feel and explain everything to him! I wish you the best of luck cause this is probably gonna be hard!