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It doesn't feel like home anymore...but am i being unfair?

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up until a year ago i lived with my mum and dad, then my dad got his mistress pregnant and left us. within the last 6 months my mum started dating an old family friend (he was with someone) and now him and his 16 year old daughter have moved in. I hate being at home now, its feels weird and wrong.It used to really be just me and my mum and i feel like she is making no effort to make me feel better about it. here are a few examples; my draws in my bedroom have been broken for about a year, i can only use one of them which mean alot of my clothes lay on the floor, i keep asking my mum to help me fix them but she doesn't.when her mans daughter moved in they went out and brought her a brand new pine wardrobe and draws and when i asked when mine will be fixed she said we will have to rearrange the draws so you only use the top one (in other words no change) and last night i got home and she was all tense and said 'ooo i havnt been able to clean up ooo the house is a mess ooo help me clean up' so i done the hoovering for her, when i asked why she was so busy she said 'oh because i have been playing board games with *holly* (the daughter) all night'. then the finall straw was when i got home and i was going through my broken draws and one of them fell out and landed on my toe. Without meaning to i screamed and said 'ahhh ****' coz it really really hurt. then i hurt my mum say 'ooo holly i bet that wasnt you was it' and then she walked off and didnt even check if i was okay even though i was crying. it just seems like she is the daughter she has always wanted and now im superfuluce to her needs. i bet i sound like a right moany cow but i just...oh i dunno what i want. am i being way to unfair?

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  1. well just move out when ur 18.. but till now.. ask ur mum or the guy she is dating for an allowence.. i get a $100 only.. its not much but i make it work.. u should ask something also.. and make it work till ur 18.. ur mum has changed and it sorta sounds like she is taking ur dads anger out on u!

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  2. I'm sorry you're in such a crappy situation.  I blame the whole thing on your father really because he's the one who set your family up for this mess.  But anyway here we are now,   I believe your mother loves you she's just trying to make sure she doesn't get dumped again so she's kissing her boyfriend and his daughter's butt. I feel really bad for you because you need someone who will comfort you and everyone seems preoccupied with their own pain.  I would find a church to get involved with they live to help people who are hurting and they can be a support system.  Other than that I would say finish school and think of your family as roommates.  Look to being financially independent and get out of dysfunction junction.

  3. i dont think you are being unfair about the situation. especially after all that you have been through already with your family, your feelings should be important to your parents. so no...i dont think you are being unfair. however...i doubt your mom actually feels that way, she may be acting a certain way without meaning to and without realizing it. so maybe you should talk to your mom about how you feel, im sure she doesnt mean to make you feel that way. she probably just doesnt realize how her actions are being perceived. so you should really talk to her about it, im sure she will reassure you that everything is ok.

    just give it time, im sure it must be hard adjusting to all those changes in your life...just hang in there and i hope everything works out!

  4. Get on outta there, if possible  

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