It is wrong for your best freind to text your man and not tell you?

Question

OK, boyfriend was in the wrong to begin with but that is a separate issue.

He texted BFreind - she texted back several times, comes over to my house all evening, even though she knew I didnt invite her or want her there...inappropriate texts between the two already. She claimed to be drunk (1 beer) and wanted to stay over - I said no and I drove her home that night and was in the car alone with her - she said nothing.

The next day she texted him 20 times over 6 or 7 hours. Two more days go by, more texts.

I find out, confront her - she says she was 'setting him' up. I have seen her texts and she claims that she was just leading him on. I dont believe it and have ended the friendship -

I ended it because she didnt tell me when the FIRST inappropriate thing happened....not feed into it. I feel that loyalty has been severely broken -

So tell me - Am I wrong? Keep in mind we are NOT kids - all are over 30 years old.

Answer 1

i agree with you.  i would have been terribly upset with my friend for not telling me.  also - for for feeding into it instead of cussing him out.  she should've been loyal to you and she was not.  instead she was selfish.

i'm sorry this has happened to you.  hopefully, the friend isn't the only friendship you have ended.

good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like dumb drama. Dump them both and get better people in your life.

Answer 3

You're not wrong.  She was after your man.  Her excuse of trying to set him up is REALLY lame.

Answer 4

Sounds like you could use a new best friend

Answer 5

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend and a new friend. He should have told you she was coming on to him and texting him.

Answer 6

hear you loud and clear. this is a matter of 'trust issue'. after all what happened - after all your gf and bf explanation to you of what why and how ... the bottom line is your instinct, your gut feeling - are they wrong and you're right ? OR are they right and you're wrong ? .... you need to answer that question. no matter what people say to you who's wrong and who's right it's all up to you,. but it's very obvious that you're right - bf should have told you about gf text messages. gf should not lead and or set him up. these two people are acting like kids. do what you gotta do - since you are over 30 and considered matured be firm with your decision whatever that is... good luck...

Answer 7

get them both out of your life,they are losers

Answer 8

At first, I thought you all were teenagers and when you said that you all were over 30 years old, I shook my head.

Drop both of them.  I have a feeling that she may have done this before some of your other friends, too.

And, the guy was wrong, too.

Answer 9

No you're right she is worthless and then, so is your b/f, time to dump them both and set your standards much higher.

Answer 10

You need to end the relationship with your boyfriend too. You are completely in the right to do that, she is obviously not your best friend if she felt it was okay to do that and he obviously doesn't love you or he wouldn't have tried to do anything. you need to find some new friends.

Answer 11

If it bothers you then it is wrong.

Answer 12

Well in one respect she may have been trying to see how faithful he could be to you. But since y'all are over 30 I think she was trying to hook up not set him up. I think you do the right thing about it .

The only time your best friend should text your boyfriend is if they are planning a surprise for you, they are related or they were best friends before you hooked up with him.  Other than that I think its inappropriate.