It still bothers me...i need closure?

Question

My former best friend (friends for 15years) and I no longer talk. Long story short I disapproved of the guy she was dating because I thought she could do better. They met on line and the circumstances were not ideal. Put it this way, he's a perv and was flirting with me as well as her. But she decided to date him anyways. Not only was a perv but he’s weird, he does not drive and no license lives at home with parents and has a dead end job. She did not want to hear anything of it when I told her he was no good, she just said "I didn't know him, so I couldn't pass judgement". She started dating him and after 3 months he gave her a promise ring. As soon as I voiced my opinion of him she slowly edged me out of her life and then we had a fight via TEXT message in which ended the friendship. After some months I found out she was engaged to him and was getting married this summer. They hadn’t been together a year? When I found out I called her to congratulate her and whish her well. This story has more details obviously and I don’t really feel like I can get into it on this site but what I can say is that I still feel hurt and dejected. I have my own relationship so it’s not a jealousy thing because I am happily in love with my BF. I find myself constantly being reminded of her things we did and our friendship. We were very close like sisters. I’m so hurt and feel regret with how I dealt with the situation and wonder if I just stayed quiet if I would still be in her life. Will I ever feel differently? If I feel this way does she? Was all this caused because of this guy telling her I was not a good friend? I could never dump a friend of 15 years over a man I hardly knew, how could she have done that to me? It makes me wonder if I was as important to her as she was to me.

Answer 1

if she ditched you over some loser, its her falt wait a year or less, she will regreat it WAY more than you.

Why? beacuse you have a better relation ship and she wont have any one.

so laugh at her right know. YOU are the better person

Answer 2

Happened to me to.To be honest it was terrible hard to get over this friend.But i guess after a few years of concentrating on other things and ppl... you'll begin to feel better.

Answer 3

In my opinion, you seem like a really great person, you told her what you thought, and were concerned for her. She shot you down though. She should have listened to you, this guy sounds like a creep. I'm terribly sorry if I'm being harsh, but the same way you think she can do better than him, I think you can have better friends than having someone like her. I guess since I don't know the story personally it's harder for me to understand, but I think none of this should be your fault.

She might feel just as bad as you, but if she won't talk to you alone there's no good way to know. I hope the best for the both of you, and that somehow things work out for the better.

-Sorry if I didn't help.