It was a few days ago but im still upset!?

Question

a few days ago someone posted a question and stated that her friend always left her almost 2 year old son unattended while taking a bath al the time. ok so everyone already knows thats wrong, and that not my issue. what bothered me was that someone who answered her question made some stupid ignorant remark that "o she must be a young mother". that made me so upset, i am 19 years old and i have a two year old ltoddler and guess what? i am proud to say that i am a darn good mother! my son is happy and very well cared for and his father and i love him very much! just cuz i am young doesnt make me a bad mother, and i am prolly a better mother than some older ones out there. i just had to vent and get that out cuz it has been bothering me ever since!

Answer 1

I answered a ? last week about a mother letting her child cry it out and the baby was just a week old. I asked if the mother were a young mother because it sounded more like something a young mother would do. The person that wrote the question got all upset and in her added detail she made sure to let me know the mother was 33 and the she (the questioner) was 22. She automatically took the stab to herself and assumed when I said young, I mean under a specific age. That wasn't the case at all. When I said young...I was talking more like 14, 15, 16. I wasn't even saying all 14, 15, and 16 year olds would do something like that.

I would say that you have to learn that every comment isn't directed directly at you. For instance, I had my first when I was 18 (got preggers when I was 17). My hubby would always make comments when we were watching tv about young pregnant teens. I would get sooooooooo mad cause I took it as though he were talking about me. Come to find out, that wasn't the case at all. He was talking about THEM! I'd start defending the girls saying you don't know what walk of life they came from and yatta yatta yatta. These people were characters on TV!!!!!!! and I was all upset. Now it doesn't bother me at all. Don't let things get to you. These people don't know you anyway. You don't live with them and they are just opinions. Not a fact of matter of the way you raise your child.

BTW, I could get mad every time someone talks about having 4 children is just ridiculous but I just choose not to waste my precious energy on them and put that energy towards my kids! Hope this answers your question.

Answer 2

I am 20 years old and have a son also. The other day I was at a cafe and my son put a napkin in his mouth and was chewing on it. I quickly went to take it from him when this older woman said, "Hey LITTLE GIRL, you know he could choke on that!!" I was so instantly mad. I turned to her and said, "Don't you think I can see that, and by the way I am not a LITTLE GIRL thank you." I was polite enough and the lady realized she had been out of line. That is the first time anyone has ever questioned my parenting, and I did not like it.

Answer 3

young moms get a bad rap because they have had less years of experience.

tell me this...do you want a doctor preforming surgery on you if he has only just graduated college? or would you rather have someone who has had a few years of experience under their belts? the older someone is, the more experience they have....congrats that you are a great mother...you just have to realize that everyone has their own opinions.

Answer 4

I find it annoying that people look down on teen moms. And in a way it's actually kind of funny that they think they're so much higher than us. What most people fail to realize is that age does not define what kind of mother you are. That is determined by what kind of person you are. I love my baby just as much as I would if I would have had her later on in life. I feed her, keep her clean, comfort her, give her a safe place to sleep, take her to doctor appointments, and so much more. I do the things that any mother would do. But others think that since we are teens who have kids we aren't capable of taking care of our babies. When you have a baby it makes you grow up so much, and you come to realize how ignorant people really are. I am no less of a mother because of my age. I have the same worries, concerns, and dreams for my baby that an older women would have.

I've heard people ask teen moms why they get pregnant and say they're stupid & horrible people. Being a teen mom I can say that is totally wrong. I didn't plan to get pregnant at seventeen, but it happened, and I took responsibility for my actions. I took care of my body for my baby, and in return I got to experience what it was like to feel someone growing inside of me, I got to experience giving birth (with NO MEDS), and everything that came after it. It is a wonderful experience no matter what age you are. I should not be looked down on or judged because I am a seventeen year old mother that takes care of her daughter. I can't smile enough when I hear others say such harsh things about teen moms, because I know that they have no clue what they're talking about. They have no clue what all those mothers have been through, how strong their love for their kids are, or what it's like to be in their place. I would love for a teen mom hater to try and prove me wrong. I would love for someone to try and educate me on something they don't personally live. You cannot attack something or someone that is much stronger than you.

Answer 5

you don't need to be on the Internet if your going to get offended by something that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Congratulations that your a good mom who gives a d**n, Nobody said you were a bad mother nobody was talking about you. My question is why is everyone judging parenting skills on age? There are a lot of things your can base on age (like experience, knowledge, and a whole list of things) My Friend is 15 is she is the ideal mom I'm 15 I am probably a better mother than anyone i know my mother was 16 when she has my brother and she is 40 smiting years old and she is still raising us the same way she raised my brother in the 24 years experience she hasn't gotten any better or any worse. Maybe you should answering questions regarding anything controversial.

Answer 6

that's good for you and I am young and I feel that I'm a good mom but maybe their opinion came from the fact that now a days a lot of teens are have and neglecting and abusing children.

Answer 7

everyone has there opinions and that means any idiot with a computer can state them. you just have to let it go

Answer 8

try not to take it personal , you have to understand that some people who answer questions on here are doing it simply to be mean to others. I know that some post ridiculous questions on here but some really need an answer. do not let an answer to another question make you doubt your parenting at all . I am sure you are a wonderful mother.