Its my birthday and my mum and dad are being really mean please help?

Question

Well, ok. Its my birthday on Sunday, and tomorrow I am going to Crawley to spend my birthday money. On Sunday, my friend is staying over for a week. My mum recently broke her ankle and can only make meals and wash/ dry up. She said that my friend could sleep over tonight if I did the chores on the list. I did all the chores and 2 extra, and then went on the pc. I asked her what time my friend should come over tonight and she said that I haven't done all my chores. She said she wrote another list. There was like 10 extra chores on there so I said I wont do them after working all day. Now my friend cant come over tonight and I have to do chores on my birthday instead. My parents have been in this weird mood for about a month now and its making me so unhappy. I cant really explain it, but my mum and dad used to be so happy all the time, now they (especially my dad) are totally opposite. I cant even talk to my dad without him snapping at me. What do I do?

Answer 1

they are stressing... maybe over work... you should really help them out with the house... they will ease a bit.. its always nice to not get worked up about these things...

and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!   :D

my parents never did anything for any of my bdays..now im 18...

so be happy that they actually do stuff for you..!!

Answer 2

You shoulda asked her if there was anything else you could do before going on the pc. I have parents like that, try having them tell you you cant leave your room on your birthday because you didnt do your chores. Which you did do. Its all so very stupid. I would just sit down with them and try to explain it. Maybe write a letter.  

Answer 3

Your mom having a broken ankle is what the problem is.  Are you so selfish that you can't do these chores?  So there's more on there than you want to do, I bet she doesn't want to do them either, but she does.  You want special treatment but you won't compromise or help.  Your friend can't come over because you didn't keep your end of the deal.  A broken ankle makes it hard to do stuff.  You should help anyway without getting something out of it.

Answer 4

tell them to man up its your birthday have your friend come over anyway =]

Answer 5

What do I (you)  do? GROW UP! All adults have problems and worries during their lives. Your petty little problems are nothing compared to what adults have to deal with every day, so stiff upper lip and all that.

Answer 6

talk to someone else who is close to u. they should be able to help u.  

Answer 7

ask  here why

Answer 8

Do your chores and grow up.

Help out your mom she is your mom and has a broken ankle she is not your personal maid...

Their ADULT issues are non of your concern

Hildagard is right... I nursed my grandfather until he passed

Answer 9

The best thing to do is to talk to them about how you feel, I'm sure they will understand. If not let them get over there selves. My mum is like this sometimes, she will just go into a mean mood with me. But dont worry I'm sure talking will help and i dont think you will have to do them chores on your birthday but happy birthday for sunday =]

Answer 10

it is your birthday....their opinions do not matter.

Answer 11

my parents are doing the same when your dad snaps you should ask him if he talks to his friends like that,and later talk to him about it your moms probably just mad about her injury if it heals and shes still mad talk to her about it also i really hoped i helped =)

Answer 12

I don't know but maybe your parents are having some problems that you don't know about and maybe thats what is putting them in that mood. (just a guess) You can wait till later to try asking your mom again. Just tell your dad you would like to have a talk with him and tell him how you are feeling when he's snapping at you all the time.  

Answer 13

Well for starters Happy Early Birthday. :-)

I have a sister I am currently living with which is the same way she snaps at me all the time! I fight with her constantly until I realized it doesn't help. So I'd say do your chores and say 'your bored and would she like for you to help in something else' with a really sad face. I did that the other day and the next day I did all I wanted too and some. Oh yeah the best part was she apologized :-)

Answer 14

your parents are going through a divorce..

Answer 15

write them a letter saying how you feel, and ask what you can do to help.

Answer 16

First off....*hugs*  I think you needed that.

Secondly, there seems to be some issues going on between your parents. You need to sit down with them and let them know how it is affecting you.  They might not be aware that it is.  Be calm, mature, and honest.

Be strong. I hope things get better.  And happy birthday!  :o)

Answer 17

tell them what u told us

Answer 18

its eazzy...be mean 2 dem...and if yur bdaae passes and they dont rili do nethin...den u have every reason 2 b mad at dem.....ulll d table wud b turned around

Answer 19

Well gollie gee Hollie....HAPPPYY BIRTHDAY!!!  I guess it kinda depends on how old you are. If your celibrating your 35th birthday and still living at home, I may be a bit snappy also if I was your parent. Or

maybe your "freind" that you want to stay over is some hunk that your parents would rather have stay at his own house. p.s. we all got chores.........  

Answer 20

Well Happy Birthday for Sunday to start with!! Hope you have a great day.

Firstly your mum has broken her ankle.  That isn't pleasant and she will not only be in pain but find it difficult to do everyday stuff.  So that's probably the reason for her asking you to do chores so your friend can stay.  Okay, so you did them.  And like you said 2 extra.  But maybe your mum is feeling rather down and frustrated at her situation, so that's why she gave you more chores to do.  I know its your birthday but have you thought that maybe this isn't the best time for your friend to stay over? Unless of course you do as much as you can to help your mum while your friend is there.

As for the mood.  Maybe they have had a few cross words and so there is an atmosphere between them.  That's probably what you are picking up on.  All grown ups have their arguments. And there's usually tension in the air.  So that may be why they are being a bit funny with you.  Trust me its probably nothing.  Just try and be as good as you can. If they ask you to tidy up, then tidy up.  Hopefully your birthday will be a happy one.  Don't spend all your money tho!!

Good Luck and let us know if you can what happens

Answer 21

the best thing is to not blame yourself for their bad moods. they're probably going through hard times... financially, in their relationship, etc. it seems like something is bothering them. maybe you should confront them and find out what is wrong and express how you feel. that might give them a reality check on how their pessimism is impacting you.  

Answer 22

Its not you! Shame on them for being mean on your Birthday. Are they having money problems? Is your mom not working because of her broken ankle or did they have to spend a lot of money for the DR bills? Tell them how you feel in a letter so they don't have the chance to yell at you. Make sure your nice to them because you don't know whats really going on. It might be something stupid going on or might be something they just don't know how to tell you to. Just be selfless for a little while until you know for sure. It won't hurt. If it does go on for a long time without any resolution then start demanding answers!

Answer 23

ouch, sorry... umm u should go right up to ur mom and tell her how u feel  u can tell her that ur friend will be like an extra help!! ur firend and u will have a lotta fun together but u have to tell her that she has to hepl out around the house. . . .HAPPY BDAY!!!! :]

Answer 24

Do the chores, after all your mum has broken her ankle.  I think you have to be grown up about this and help out.  Then they will treat you with respect and let your friend stay over.  

Help out, it sounds like your dad is really tired and your mum can't do much in her condition.

Answer 25

i hate when parents do that, my dad does that all the time--making more chores when ur done with the list. im so sorry for this happening, but whenever i try to talk to them about how it is unfair, he gets madder at me. if you want to make it so your friend can come over, i guess do the chores. im still trying to figure out what to do in these situatuations. ask nicely what is up with them i guess. good luck, God bless and HAPPY BIRTHDAY from me.  

Answer 26

I know how you feel my mom and dad made me confess to my bishop on my birthday how wrong is that?Anyways, you should calmly go up to your mom and dad and tell them that you need to talk about something important and then explain in a calm way your feelings about their behavior.Also try to understand that having a broken ankle would make anyone moody.

Answer 27

well you can still do all the chores that she wrote on the new list and then tell them you did them ALL dont go to your dad and ask behind your mums back. you will get into more trouble.

Answer 28

hmm.thats a really tough one.usually i can get out of chores and i wouldnt be forced to do them near or on my birthday but it doesn't sound like you can get out of it. so..lemme think a sec.

if you really want your friend to come over tonight you're gonna have to finish all of the chores tonight-its your only choice.i know it's hard after working all day but thats what you will have to do in order to have your friend over.hope i helped.

~rachel☺

Answer 29

ask whats going on between them two

Answer 30

Well, it sounds like your parents are going through difficult times--work, relationship, finance etc. I wouldn't ask them what is really going on between them two because you are their kid, and you are young. Whatever is going on between two adults is NONE OF YOUR CONCERN.  The best thing you can do is listen to what your parents say. Especially if your mother has a broken ankle, you should understand the fact that she cannot run around doing all of the chores. When you think that your mother is in an OKAY mood, then what you should do is talk to her. Don't whine or fret. If you're calm, then your mother will explain it to you in a calm way as well. If she doesn't, she will later understand that it was wrong of her to make you upset on your birthday. Your mother is not really wrong in any way, but she is going through tough times. Take a minute and understand what I am saying, and talk to either one of your parents. Don't take advantage of any situation. Best wishes! =)

Answer 31

I know it is hard I had been there But try being seven years old with your parents breaking up but try doing the chores I think it will be worth it but if they give you more that is  the time to stop.