Its not all about s*x right?

Question

I met him 10 months ago, and we have had an on and off relationship ever since, in the beginning we we're very physical but never had s*x. Then he had to move for work and so we started talking on the phone a lot. Talking on the phone turned into phone s*x, and now every time we talk thats all he wants to talk about! I have started to think that all he thinks of me is a some chick to get off with. I am very much in love with him, but for him not the s*x. He's obviously addicted, but how do I tell him I'm not without losing what we have? Help?!

Answer 1

Tell him it's been fun but you want to talk to him and not only about s*x. If he starts talking to you about regular things then fine, if not it is up to you to decide if you want to continue the friendship or not.

Answer 2

wat a tuff situation... tell him wat u feel... say u want a relationship not a s*x partener

Answer 3

It's not all about s*x, but s*x is an important part of any relationship.  However, I might not be the right girl to give advice for this one since I have a very high s*x drive and my boyfriend gets it pretty much every time he wants it.

Anyway, if you're not in the mood the next time he calls for s*x, just say something like "No...I'm gonna make you wait."  You can choose to tell him when the next time you plan on doing it is or just keep it a surprise.  I wouldn't deny him too much though, because that can lead to trouble.  Like I said, I really don't know what is normal for people with low s*x drives.  You might want to research the subject.

Answer 4

Just talk to him, tell him how fun it is to talk that way, but you are in love and that's not the only thing to talk about.  He maybe thinking the same thing about you.