Its so obvious my mom likes my sister better....

Question

my mom always gives my sister what she wants. shes so much better than me we both go to catholic private schools but last year my teacher sucked so i got bad grades and my mom called me dumb and stupid and wouldnt let me do anything but when my sister got a c she called her smart and said it was just one paper and she will do better next time this summer my mom wont let me go to the movies or the mall but my sister gets to do everything my mom buys her new clothes and pays for her senior pics and drivers ed. and her school but after spending money on her she dosent have enought money for me so i might have to transfer school and where last years uniforms that r to small on me becaue i grew this summer for her b-day she got to go out of state for a few days for my b-day i got to bring cupcakes to school ''/ and my mom bought her concert tickets i cant take it any more i just want to burst what do i do?

Answer 1

How old are you two?  Because she might get more freedom if she's older than you and your mom trusts her more alone or with friends.  If you are older, i don't know what is going on.

Answer 2

You need to have a talk with your mom and tell her what you told us here.

You need  to find a solution, I'm sure she loves you both equally but doesn't realize that she's being unfair. Also, have you ever thought that she might be giving her more freedom because she's older?

Answer 3

well im a guy but when i was your age my older siblings got everything like they got 50$ a eek allowance i got 10 they got to go shopping like every other week but no matter ho much you tell your mother she is unfair they always blow you off but you only have a year untill your sister is out of the house and then trust me you wil have everything when my brothers and sisters moved out i got everything they got and more so its worth the wait and if you really need new uniforms tell your mom and if she still wont buy you new ones tear up the old ones so she will have to buy you new ones  

Answer 4

I'm pretty sure your mom loves you just as much. It sounds like your sister is older and preparing for her senior year in school. this is a very special time and parents want to make sure their children are prepared for it, it does not mean she loves you less. You can't blame you bad grades solely on your teacher take your share of the responsibility for you actions. Maybe your mom needs some type of parenting classes to show you how much she cares, but remember she's only human.

Answer 5

You're gonna hate my answer...

First:  You have to take yourself out of your shoes and put yourself in mom's shoes.  Does it matter that you had a bad teacher?  Or is that just an excuse you used when you didnt get along with her and had some disagreements about the way she taught you.  Second, was that the first time you ever got bad grades?  Or did you always get bad grades, only this time its a new excuse?

Second:  How old are you?  If your sister is much older than you, Mom could be preparing to 'lose' her away to college, or at the very least your sisters own life.  When she is gone...Mom will probably do the same types of things for you.  It sounds to me like your sister must be quite a bit older because she is allowed more responsiblity than you are.  Like going out with her friends and things like that.

Third:  If everything I've said so far is absolutely wrong and Mom really does not care if you are around or not...and please be honest with yourself...then you are just going to have to get over it!  

You arent the first child who has ever felt this way.  Ive felt it too...but now that Im older,...I can see that it's just not the case.  Sometimes it just happens, Mom doesnt really mean to single your sister out.  Sometimes its convenience, your sister is older and can understand more things, and have more things in common (only due to her age) with mom than you do.  And sometime's it really IS your attitude.  Do you think if you go around whining and complaining all day that Mom wants to do anything for you?  Even if your teacher sucked and should drop dead from the suckiness, do you think you did everything you could to do well in that class...even if your teacher picked on you?  (Cause I'll tell you what...1+1=2.  Even if your teacher hates you....you'd have to get an A if you answered that question right.).

Anyway...I understand how you feel...all I can say is this:

It's a sign of maturity, if you can push those h8ter vibes away, and let it float right over your shoulders.  At the very least you could show your mom that you dont need HER to do a good job in school, or to be responsible, you can do it on your own.  

Good Luck!

Answer 6

to all of the little sisters, we all feel this way. i have 1 oldest sister and we are only 1 year apart. my mom trusted her more, she lets my sister do whatever she wants and come home late at night. whenever i go out with my friends, my mom keeps calling me and tell me to bring my *** home. i'm 16 and my sister's 17. Now i know why my mom let my sister do whatever she wants, because she's more responsible than i am. when your mom's around, try to help her out for example cleaning the house, wash the dishes.....

Answer 7

teachers don't give bad grades you earned them and if you were having a problem with your teacher you should have gone and gotten help from another teacher or tutor. and how old are you... i mean she is a senior and so there are some things you just cant do because you are younger

Answer 8

get a job and move out??

maybe your mom just thinks she works harder, so she rewards her....

i get good grades to spite going to a crummy community school...so i think if you apply yourself, you can as well....besides if your teachers are making you fail you should want to move school.  

Answer 9

OK, you THIRTEEn she is SEVENTEEN. SHE is above legal age, you are still a minor. Doe's that shed some light on it for you!

Answer 10

ok

Answer 11

why don't you calmly talk to her?

say something like " Mom, i don't understand why my sister gets to do all of these things and I don't. What did I ever do wrong? Was it my grades? I told you i had a bad teacher and I didn't learn much because her teaching mechanisms were not all that great. Can you tell me if I did something so I can fix it?"

talk to her on the lines of that

maybe she doesn't realize that she is treating the other daughter better than you. Or maybe its because she's a little older than you.

it wouldn't hurt to ask.

[EDIT]

see, i just read your added response.

its because she is way older.

your mom trusts her to do things and handle it well, but since you are 13, it may not be as freedomless as you would hope.

Don't worry, when you are 17 she'll be out of the house and you can have everything.

Answer 12

well maybe when u r in a fight just b like "y do u favor my sis better than me????" if she cant give u an answer then b like you do and she will deny it and just ignore her for awhile maybe she will do something for u to make up for it? ;)

Answer 13

ha i was in the same boat but my sis was older and when she grad college things seemed to even out a bit

Answer 14

Call social services...they'll handle that crazy woman

Answer 15

we all feel this way sometimes! try talkin to your mom

Answer 16

well, for starters, you can't get a bad grade because "your teacher sucked"

and second, i'd say it's because she's much older than you, so your mom thinks she should have more freedom. but spending so much money on her that she doesn't have enough money for your school is ridiculous.

you should most definitely talk to your mom. tell her all this.