Iv been w/my b.f. for about 3 ys, his 3 kids, we all luv 1 another but i am ready to move on.?

Question

feeling resentment at kids cuz of hurtful lies or gossip they tell mom.i have done so much i thought we were good they know it hurts me,but still does it.mean things too!dad doesnt want me to go,beggs,& blames me.i am 25 he is 48ys old.i have gave it my best.most of my stuff is moved out now,how do i deal w/it feeling guilty,and responsable for him not having a sitter if or when i leave.how should i deal w this?is it wrong or whats up here?

Answer 1

Then he needs to get on board with you . If he wants you to stay he needs to help bring his kids around. My suggestion is you have this talk with him if he is unwilling you have your answer and about the ex wife's , they never like anybody who is in the "mom" place. That's just a mothers instinct, so do not pay a great deal of mind to her , if it were your kids and step mom you would problem be similar.Tell him if you want me here then we are going to have to have boundaries with what the kids are telling your ex , if we can't do that and you don't want to help me enforce it then I am not going to stay here  . You gotta stand your ground and get tough . Good Luck  

Answer 2

How old are the kids?

It's not wrong for you to move on if he's not gonna step up and tell his kids to stop telling their mom lies. Move on I say. It will get better. Don't feel guilty, he brought this on himself by not saying anything.