Ive decided to adopt a baby but dont know what gender to go for?

Question

i am 100% convinced adoption is for me

but i just dont know what gender i should pick

im thinking i should flip a coin

i was wondering if you could give me your opionions and some pros and cons of each s*x

thanks

Answer 1

i would have to say girls are definatley more fun. great to shop with, love doing their hair and playing dress up.

i have a boy and its really not all that fun, it was great when he was a baby but now we have nothing in common. i sit at home all day with him bored. i want a girl to play with. hey dont get me wrong i love him, hes just no fun hes a pain in the rear, never listens and constantly tearing things apart.

Answer 2

Wow...all I can say is Wow...

You aren't picking a dress for a date.

You want to be a mom to a child, and everything else should be moot - or maybe you aren't ready yet.

Try a puppy first.

Answer 3

HI, I just have to say that we've adopted 4 children and we didnt know what we were getting until they were born, we now have 3 girls and a boy....It shouldnt matter what s*x the child is, it is the love for the child...good luck....

Answer 4

if you get a girl she wont be as rowdy but you have to buy alot of clothes and a cell phone as a teen but as a kid the love dress up and acting liek real life

boys you have a huge mess to clean all the time and it will drag you to the point of tears

and you have to buy the bebe gun and the trampoline and in conclusion id get a girl they are so cute as babys and 5 years old im like 13 so trust about the clothes and the phone and the shoe

Answer 5

You don't have to choose.  Why not wait and see what children are available?  My husband and I haven't chosen a preferred gender.  We look at bulletins of all the waiting children, and put in our homestudy for the ones we feel we could parent.  Male, female, sibling groups...gender isn't really the important thing.  Feeling that you are the best possible choice of a family for a child is the most important thing.

Answer 6

If you want a political reason, get a girl.  Around the world, girls are mistreated, abused and often left to die because boys are preferred by the families.  Take China, for example, where there are limits on the number of children a couple may have. They usually want male children who can carry on the family name and heritage. So, if the couple has a female child, the couple often finds ways to get rid of the little girl so it can try again for a boy.  The couples will go through great lengths to rid themselves of the girl -- including but not limited to abandonment and murder.  What's more, many governments and law enforcement types in these places turn a blind eye to the practice.  That's why in China men out number women 10 to 1.  And, China is just one country of many where there have been procreation limits placed on couples.  If those couples had viable options for ridding themselves of the unwanted girl, they may take them. And, what you'll probably find is that adopting a girl is easier simply because there are more of them.

Answer 7

Girls have cuter clothes, they will never pee in your face and bad behavior will not be fueled by raging testosterone.  I can't think of a single time I have ever seen a girl explore/learn about a toy or other object by smashing it or ripping it apart (I've seen quite a few boys do this unfortunately)

Answer 8

I think only you can answer that question, take a look at your life and talk to your partner about this.

Answer 9

Flip a coin?  Are you sure you have really spent enough time thinking about this?  First of all, it's not quite that simple.  At least it sure wasn't for us.  It's not like going to Wal-Mart and saying, I'll take a male, please.  We waited 5 years for A baby.  And, after 5 years we still didn't have a baby of any gender.  

Secondly, there is another element of "fantasy" in your question.  Choosing the gender of your child is still not going to guarantee you a smooth ride as a parent. I have one of each, and, believe me they each come with their own set of challenges.  

Parenting is HARD, period.  Parenting an adopted child is even HARDER.  Not because they are bad kids.  Just because adoption impacts their lives forever!  You will need to be sensitive to their needs as adoptees.  There will be lots of things you will need to understand if you want to be a good parent to an adoptee.

Answer 10

Boys are more wild but less emotional...usually..

Girls Whine a lot sometimes. I would go for a boy. Especially if you want a girl in the future to have an older brother to protect her.

Answer 11

I would change my thoughts and think , it doesnt matter what the s*x is, your giving that child a loving home, a second chance in life.

Answer 12

Boys tend to be a lot more stubborn and will get very mad and angry and confused when you tell them that they were adopted. Girls, on the other hand, will also be confused and start crying and getting emotional. Girls are usually social butterflies and must be tended to constantly. Boys, however, require less maintence. Boys also tend to like violence and sports. Girls like clothes and are always trying to keep in fashion. Overall I guess it depends on how much work you want to put into the child's life. Hope you found this helpful. :)

Answer 13

if u thinking of adoption i think u should get a girl..girls are always good choice

Answer 14

talk about the pros and cons with your partner.

girls are cute

boys can carry on your name

girls are drama and cry

boys get into trouble

girls can be dressed up and have fun

boys like trucks

girls like barbies

boys are funny

girls will babysit younger/future kids

boys are less maintainence

girls cry

boys bite & hit

all kids, no matter the gender, are such an enjoyable experience. I think the bigger question should be: what AGE will you adopt?

why don't you go to an orphanage, look around & get the cutest one, no matter the gender.. just who grabs your heart and melts it. good luck~

Answer 15

Does it really matter? I mean, whats your reason for adopting? If you cannot have children on your own, I'm sorry but as long as you can parent a healthy child the gender shouldn't be an issue.

Answer 16

boys: crazy, messy, dirty, fighting, more drugs, get girls pregnant, horny, stinky...

girls: periods, moodiness, cliques, bitchy, stuck up...

those are the negatives....

in the end, i think you should just go with your gut feeling and if ur still not sure... be open to any s*x and the agency will select a baby they think is right for you... boy or girl! i think you'll be happy either way... good luck and god bless.

Answer 17

i dont think i could pick. i'd say flip the coin and you get what you get, just like the real thing :)

Answer 18

A baby is not a dog. If God wanted us to be able to choose what we should have then we would be able to do that. I've been pregnant 3 times and the second time I wanted a girl so badly, guess what I got a boy and have the most awesome connection with him. I am so glad I didn't get a girl. God knows what he is doing. I think you should put no preference and put it in Gods hands and trust him! No matter if you get a boy or a girl you will love him or her and you wouldn't have it any other way!!!

Answer 19

Most agencies do not allow you to select gender anyway. However, if you are electing to adopt an older child, it would be great if you would adopt a boy. There are more girls adopted than boys and so many more older boys need permanent adoptive homes.

Answer 20

Adopt a girl because Girls are sweet and ask a lot of questions but boys they are really wild.. For example almost every single baby boy in real life  I Know who was a baby that bounced wall from wall and my brother did the same and its really a hassel. They also climb chairs and stuff. Girls aren't that bad..

Answer 21

You should just be surprised and take what they give you.

I only raised a son and I truly loved having him, the trips to the baseball card store. All the extracurricular activities, soccer, football, baseball, seeing him so nervous on his first date, dancing the mother/son dance on his wedding day, hearing him say mommy I'm a daddy now. How cool is that.

Now I have a granddaughter and I see how different it is, she's in to Princess's and dolls but she likes the big wheel too. She's a precious little girl. There are only pros with either s*x baby, no cons as far as I'm concerned.

Answer 22

little girls you can dress in pink and do their hair pretty bows boys will be rough when older both both are a good choice

Answer 23

I really can't understand the question.  When someone gets pregnant they never consider what s*x they would "prefer."  Whatever it may be, everyone is satisfied that the child is healthy and hopefully happy.

Answer 24

get a girl... they're easier till they hit the teen years.

Answer 25

I think either s*x would be wonderful. If you are really wanting to be a part of a childs life the s*x of that child will not matter to you.  I understand what you are wanting to know though if one child is easier for some people to raise .. i guess.  What you Should look into is things like if you are wanting to adopt in the US or maybe in China where you can easily adopt girls. I think you should really look into things like that because you will love the child no matter its s*x you should adopt based on the need of the children. Also if you wouldn't mind having an older child lots of American Children after the age of 6 never get adopted... just some thoughts. Good Luck!

Answer 26

I am a proud mother of a three year old little girl. She is my world. I would never trade her for a boy. However, if she would of been a boy I still would of loved my child. My sister -in- law has a little boy who is 4 months younger than my daughter. He is a terror. He's loud, obnoxious, just a holy terror. Girls tend to be smarter, they get potty trained easier,(thats a proven fact)They are quieter,but on the flip side the saying goes that boys tend to be closer to their mothers and girls tend to be daddy's little girls.No matter what you decide children are a blessing and the way you raise them they are a product of their enviroment. So, heres two questions:   Do you want your home  filled with: cars, trucks, footballs ect..... or teddy bear, dolls, barbies, princesses ect.....And the second question is Do you want to go to football practice or ballet  practice? Hope this helps good luck

Answer 27

If you are convinced that you should adopt, then gender shouldn't be an issue.  It should be about love not gender.

Edit:  I just read some of your other answers where you are attacking adoptees that they will never be family.  If you can treat them that way in this forum, then you should not adopt.

Answer 28

I think you should worry less about the gender and more about that the baby would be healthy. If you and your partner strongly wish to have a boy or a girl that's different. That's up to the both of you. Best of luck.

Answer 29

why, when you adopt, do they ask you what gender you want....? that sounds strange to me....

Answer 30

Well gosh, since according to your other question you only want to parent a baby and then to "give it back" when it turns a year old, you should choose a girl, since she won't pee in your face when you are changing her diaper like boy babies do.

Adoption is not about placing an order and then returning "it" when you get bored. Your questions are insulting to both adoptees and adoptive parents -- and really to anyone with any morals or good sense.

Answer 31

Ummmmm...Yeah....make sure you get a handbag that matches. Accessorize, accessorize, accessorize.

McAdopting are we?

Are you kidding?