Ive just been adopted 4 the 1st time after being in the care home 4 10 years?

Question

i like my adoption parents but its there children who annoy me

little eddy of the age of 4 keeps kicking me and Toby the age of 10 shouts at me do u think they r jelous?

Answer 1

well first of all i'm happy that You were adopted second i think you should tell the your parents what they are doing. I do think that they are jealous but they may not know it. If all else fails try to talk to them the children about how they are hurting your feelings and that you wish to mend the situation by trying to be a family

Answer 2

you know...  i bet they are.  

I am in my 20s.  Me and My hubby adopted a 16yr old.  (now 17.)  he was in the system since he was 2.  he lived in 42 homes.  he had a failed adoption when he was 6. (the adoptive parent abused him.)  

After our son had been with us a year.  We started doing visits and finally a 13 yr old moved in with us.  Sadly it did not work out.  My son had a FIT while he was with us.  The boy had to be moved (due to psychological issues to a facility. -- we will visit him and hope he gets better!)

He was jeolous that we would like the 13 yr old better.  etc etc.  As the 13 year old at the same time kept telling our son that we would send him back to the system and blah blah blah.  

Heck yeah it is a jealousy thing!  It will get better with time.

I know that your parents love you ALL the same!  :)

Answer 3

They may be jealous but they will adjust eventually and accept you. I think it is wise to talk to your new parents and let them know how you feel and that you understand that your new siblings are probably jealous. Ask for their suggestions and ask the new siblings as well.

Congratulations on finding this new family to love and care for you.

The Muse

xox

Answer 4

Congratulations on your adoption. Your new brothers could be a little jealous; it will take everyone in the family time to adjust to the new family. I would speak to your new parents about their behavior. Also assuming your older then 10 you’re a big sister now and younger siblings (any siblings really) can be annoying. It just something you will have to get used too. Also if you are older then Toby he might feel odd being the middle child now. Now if your actual just 10 again it has a lot to do with adjustment.

Answer 5

First off, congratulations on your new family!

Bear in mind that this is a huge adjustment for everyone in the home: you, your new siblings and your new parents.  Everyone is trying to figure out how to fit together as a family.  Sometimes younger children will act out in this adjustment period (and not so younger children!) until things get more settled, routines established and so on.  This takes time and can't be rushed.  

Good luck to you!

Answer 6

first let me say congrats on finding a forever home... the kids are going need a while to get use to having another sibling... then after that ...lol welcome to the world of brothers and sisters... im the oldest of 8 and everyone of them annoys me..lol i have a 11 year odl and a 7 year old and have my youngest sister now age 13 they fight just like cats and dogs. its normal...

Answer 7

Toby was probably jelous of Eddy to. Congrats on being adopted though. Talk to your parents aobut it and it will take some time but you will be a nice family before you know it. Also fighting and arguing is part of being a sibling

Answer 8

Probably.  They now have to get used to another kid in the house and may feel insecure.  Give it time and likely everybody will adjust.

Answer 9

They could be--but they may also just be adjusting to the family change just like you are....

4 year olds are really annoying anyway and eventually learn to stop kicking... If I were your mom I would suggest that when Eddy kicks you that you Look Him in the Eyes and Say, "That is Not nice--Please don't Hurt me anymore."

If your parents are not aware this is happening feel safe enough to let them know how you feel.... They really wanted to adopt you and they don't want you to be hurt or feel like you can't get along....  The best way that they can give you what they Dreamed of giving you is for you to feel safe to talk with them....

If talking is hard Mom's always like little notes and ideas of what is going on... You can let her know how you feel and trust her to consider ways to make things better or understand what you are feeling....

It is much harder if you keep this stuff to yourself and then later have a big explusion because you can't stand it anymore....  It is normal for everyone in the New Family to be having a "Honeymoon" and be Kind of Different during the first while.... Then after everyone gets used to each other sometimes there is a big old blow up and the Real Feelings come out...

You have the power to help that not become a bad thing.... by not hiding what you feel and what is hard about this for you.... Remember that right now your parents are just waiting to be supportive and understanding and if they don't know what is bothering you then they just think everything is fine....

Trust them--and be part of making this family work.... If you can then they can help you... It might Not mean that your new brothers will just Get Nice all of a sudden (trust me brothers are almost always annoying) But, at least your parents will know how you feel and be able to help the boys learn to respect you....

Good Luck....and it sounds like you are now the older sister--If you want any tips on annoying little brothers email me... I have 3-little brothers and we all still enjoy annoying each other! It is fun to be a big sister when You know how to use your Powers..... hehehehe!

Answer 10

It is a huge adjustment for them, however this does not excuse their behavior.

Talk to your mom and dad.  Perhaps you need to set aside some family time, or even some special time with you and your brothers to get to know each other.

Answer 11

I think your parents should be watching what you do online and where your getting your information from.

....this is a child?

hummm...