Ive just been dumped by my fiance of 8 yrs what the h**l do i do now

Question

i had to say bye to all my mates because of the banking job i went into now ive got absolutly no-one

Answer 1

Take a break, save up some money and go visit foreign places. Take a sabbatical. Relax. At least you don't have kids to worry about eh?

If you got married THEN this happened I wouldn't envy you. I know its hard but get away from your usual haunts, make some new friends, go out on a limb.

Answer 2

That is awful and I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now. However, I'm curious about an engagement that lasted 8 years? No wedding in 8 years? Maybe this wasn't the right person? I know it's hard to think that right now...I think this break up is a good thing for you. Now you can find someone who will actually set a wedding date and marry you! Don't give up hope.....

In the meantime, be good to yourself. Treat yourself well.

We humans are a resilient species. You'll  be ok :^)

Answer 3

You f**t in his face and move on!

Answer 4

8 YEARS??? You two weren't getting married. You just liked to say you were. Move on. Sooner or later you will find someone who you really will marry. Your life isn't over, just a lie. Good luck.

Answer 5

Just think of it this way.  Now, you will have more time to focus on yourself.  Try to do the things you've always wanted to do because of him.  

Looking good and having a positive disposition is always the best revenge.  Most of all, you will feel good about yourself and realize your self-worth.

Answer 6

Become very successful and do not look back... Success is the best revenge.    

Answer 7

the only way to handle it is to make your life better than it was when you were together - you'll find new friends and new love! don't worry it is not the end of the world!

Answer 8

Anything you want.  After I divorced my ex husband of 18 years for cheating on me I cried for about a month or so, got mad and then started going out.

He wasn't sitting home thinking about me or his children.  

I met a wonderful man a year after the divorce was final.   We went everywhere together and sometimes even took the children with us.

We have been happily married 22 years now.  

Go out and meet new friends, start dating and have fun.  Do  all the things you couldn't do when you were with him.   Best of luck.  

Answer 9

Be grateful you no longer have to waste any more of your precious life -- since you've already wasted 8 years with this man.  Take it as experience, lessons learned, and don't repeat the mistakes and get ready for a new and improved chapter of your life.  

CELEBRATE!!!  Seriously, throw a party with friends.  And if you think you have no friends -- then make some new ones.  We all have to start fresh from time to time.

Answer 10

its his mistake and i say you move on and find other men/women to go out with so you forget about your fiance its to late to go back maybe he will crawl back to you with time but obviously there was something wrong with the relationship in his eyes so in a long run he could have saved you from a horrible divorce

Answer 11

you move on, you've hit rock bottom and youve got no where to go... but up.

go for what you want, the skies your limit... or try and break that limit!

your free to be who you are and do what you want!

Answer 12

yea just move on if he really loved you he wouldn't have left... just take a break then try again later

Answer 13

try to move on.. Save some money go on a trip.. have sometime for yourself.

Answer 14

Move on. Join a gym. Put a smile on your face, stand tall and move on.

Answer 15

Your lucky, I was married once, & I never want to be that happy again!!!!!!

Answer 16

get over him if he dont want u you shouldnt want him if he really loved you he wouldnt ov dumped you!!

good luck♥

Answer 17

I am so sorry that this happened to you!  When my husband walked out on me, I thought I was going to die.  I lost 17 pounds in two weeks because I couldn't swallow.  So I understand the pain you must be feeling.

But God has a better plan for your life than the course you had chosen.  And sometimes he just has to take that plan away from us so that we are free and open to the better opportunity he has created.

I have now been married to the world's most wonderful man for almost 17 years.  You WILL find love again - a better, more committed, more compatible love.  Just trust and replace your fear and pain with faith.

Take a deep breath and start compiling a list of characteristics that you cannot live without in a person - what would that person really be like?  Compile another list of characteristics that you can't live with.  Keep those lists and the next time you meet someone that you start to get serious with, take out those lists and see how many characteristics they have and which list they fall into.

It is a great tool for interjecting some wisdom into our love lives.  And making this list while you are not with someone, will help you to be more objective about what really works for you.

I know that it is hard to see now, but your fiance has just given you the greatest gift of your life.  You will not have the go through the agony of a divorce, which I assure you is far worse than breaking up now - even after 8 years.  Trust God - today is a new day.  Start believing that something wonderful is going to happen to you and it will.  Start each day with a prayer of gratitude and your whole attitude will begin to move from pain to positive.

And remember to let go and forgive - "Resentment is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies."

"This too shall pass" and life will be better than you ever dreamed.  

Answer 18

Be happy that you found out now instead of after the wedding that your fiance was not ready for a lifelong commitment.  Dedicate yourself to improving yourself in some way and pursuing interests that you have.  Learn an instrument, participate in a sport, learn karate, etc.  Get involved in church if you are or want to be religious.  I bet that one day you will find someone who deserves you, and then you will be glad this happened.  Of course, that is hard to see now...

Answer 19

You let go of him and move on- he wasn't right for you so remove all traces of him! Go out and meet new people, get to know the people at your new work, go to some clubs anyway you can meet people and make friends. It will be hard but until you've settled in make a list of the things you've always wanted to do in your life like perhaps a dream holiday or something else and work towards those to keep you happy whilst the rest of your life catches up. Have some well earned me time.

Answer 20

You have yourself, you will always have yourself. I am sorry to hear about what happened but there is a reason and something you must learn......focus on you, your the only you, you will ever have. You go everywhere with yourself