Ive made the biggest mistake of my life?

Question

so yeah if you read my last question you probably know that i was considering breaking up with my boyfriend/ best guy friend.

WELL i did it. yesterday when he was at my house i told him that i wanted to go back to being friends with him because it was so much less complicated. and well, he didnt take it that great. he left and slammed the door behind him. but then he came back cause he wanted to talk to me. so we talked.. for two hours. it was so hard for me to see him like this.. he was crying.

then he told me he knew i was going to dump him and he was gonna do it first but he couldnt and when i asked him why he said "becuase i love you" not loveD, LOVE.

thankgod he said we could still be friends.

so yeah, now..

well i felt terrible about doing that to him.. i cried in my room for a little while and then he texts me asking if IM okay! ugh.

well now i feel even more horrible. ive been crying basicly non stop since last night. i feel so empty.. i feel like im the one who got

Answer 1

I'm not sure if you have someone else in mind, but if you love him, take him back. because guys come and go but finding a true love is harder than you think.

good luck

Answer 2

You just broke up.  its going to hurt for awhile.  Time will heal your wounds, but not the memories you shared.

If you really do still love him, maybe you two just need a break about for awhile.  Who knows, maybe you'll get back together.  Just take it easy for awhile.  Eventually the hurt will stop, we all go through it.

Answer 3

You did what you thought was right at the time. That's okay. If you are meant to be together, you will be. Right now, you shouldn't be together. Enjoy the single life for a bit and if you miss him, I'm sure he'd be glad to rekindle things up.

Answer 4

I have to agree with the first responce. Make up or move on. My sister has been stuck in that same continuous loop with her ex for 6 years now. 6 YEARS! They break up and two months later their back together. Another two months, they hate each other. It was just obnoxious when they were younger but now they are 21 and 22. Its totally messed with their heads and has made it 10 times harder for them. You don't wanna go through all that (trust me). Breaking up isn't always the end, if its meant to be then u'll end up together someday. If not, get over it now. Don't drag it out.

Answer 5

Awww I know it hurts doesn't it :(

But you're bound to feel like this after breaking up, usually everyone does. If you'd had stayed together then you still would have felt the same feelings about wanting to break up before. If you think you have made the right decision then stick to it. Don't get back with him, try to get over this heartbreak stage, it might take a week or so, but you'll be happier afterwards. If you get back with him now you might regret it and end up hurting him even more because you might want to break up with him again. Do not get back with him just because you feel sorry for him or because you feel like you've hurt him, because that will only lead to unhappiness for you both. Stick to it for a while and get through this sad stage, and afterwards you'll both feel better and will be able to go back to being friends normally. I broke up with my boyfriend recently and I felt the same, but once you're over the sad stage blaming yourself and wondering if you did the right thing, you're fine after it and things go back to normal. Hope this helps and good luck. Get a cup of tea, a chocolate bar, sit in a squishy chair and watch a film and try to smile =]

Answer 6

GO GET HIM BACK. If he LOVES you, that is a big sign that he will be MISSING YOU TOO. Stop crying, stop writing on yahoo answers and just go talk to him. The chances of him taking you back is like... A 95% chance.

Answer 7

If you regret it THAT much see if you can get it back together. He's clearly a great guy if he says all that and then asks YOU if you're ok.

Invite him over and talk it out...tell him you KNOW you've made a huge mistake. You just felt trapped and you were just doing what you thought would make it easiest. But now you've realized just how much you need him and that you'd like to give it another go. Worth a shot, right?

If not, just try to move on without him. I'm sure in time you'll get over him, and whilst it may be pretty c**p for the next few months, you'll be fine.

;)

Answer 8

do you really think so?

In five years you will hardly even remember

Answer 9

Ok, so i read your last question and i definetly think you should give him another chance! He sounds like he's this really cute, sweetguy who would die for you. If it's one "big" fight that got you thinking.. then hey, in every relationship there's a fight! You can't picture a "perfect" one. Why don't you give him one more chance, spend more time with him.  Do more things together as boyfriend/girlfriend. If it doesn'twork out this time, then.. talk to him again and be like "I really liked you as my best friend and i thought you were very cool then. Why can't we just be friends again and then we'll see what happens." You never know, maybe by being good friends again, you might fall in love with him! Good Luck

Answer 10

i think you should tell him your true feelings and see if you two can start hanging out again. Gradually build the relationship back up to where you want it. I think if he truly loves you he will give you another chance to make things right.

Answer 11

Listen, you shouldn't take him back because odds are - you'll do this to him again. He's being very sweet for asking about your feelings - not making you feel guilty. He probably wishes you 2 were still together - and maybe you will be someday - but right now, focus on your friendship that is, and not a relationship that was.

Answer 12

Tell him that you feel empty without him and you didn't realize just how much you loved him until he was gone. It sounds like he misses you and would take you back in a heartbeat.

Answer 13

Go and kiss him and get back with him

Answer 14

You know, if this wasn't so superficial, it would be painful.  As it is . . .

"He was going to dump me before I could dump him . . ."  What is this, a pre-emptive dumping, so the dumper can have bragging rights over the dumpee?  Is this how deep this relationship is?  Oh, my.

In your previous post, you indicated a desire to be free to play the field when school started, which indicates to me that you didn't take the relationship that much to heart, anyway.  No one who was truly in love would ever consider such a thing, they would want to share the experience with the one they loved.  Therefore, you must not be truly in love.

Yes, you hurt his feelings.  Rather, I'd say that you hurt his ego -- no guy likes to be dumped (thus the "I'm gonna dump you before you dump me" mentality). Ego = anger.  When their egos are involved, most guys get angry.

What, exactly, is the fine line between being "friends" and being "boyfriend and girlfriend"?  Kissing?  Having s*x?  Why are you so anxious to put a label on your relationship?  Why can't you just enjoy each other's company without trying to shove it into someone else's idea of a relationship?  It sounds like you have a solid friendship -- work from there and see how it goes.  Kids your age are so anxious to have "grown up" relationships, but you AREN'T grown up, so the relationships keep falling apart, because you have no idea or desire to invest the commitment in a real relationship.  That's ok -- at your age, you aren't SUPPOSED to have a "real" relationship, because you are still getting to know yourself and learning what you like and dislike about other people.

Answer 15

I think you should go talk to him about how you feel about him. I think you should tell him that you have feelings for him. Its not needy to go and tell him because it takes guts to talk about these sorts of things and if you go up to him first, it shows that you are brave. I think if you have feelings for him you probably aren't ready to break up and since he texted you he is probably feeling the same way. So my advice: go talk to him about how you feel and if he feels the same way, maybe you two aren't ready to break up yet, but if he feels different maybe its time for you to move on.....

Hope this helps

Answer 16

What if he had not said "I love you"? You would still feel good about the break up. If you two were not a good pair then you shouldn't be together. However if you feel you really made a mistake talk to him about it and see what you come up with. No break up is easy even if you are the one who broke up with him.

Answer 17

Breaking up with a relationship is not the biggest mistake of our life, i'm sure that you'll get through that emotion, just think positive and, be constructive in everything you do,  decide wisely.

Answer 18

well... ask yourself why you wanted to dump him and ask yourself if your just feeling sorry for him that's why your telling yourself you still love him or if your not feeling sorry, then think it over for a while then give him another chance or just try to move on...

Answer 19

You need to ask yourself 2 questions:

Do you love him?

Can you see yourself without him?

If you anwser no to both questions then I think making a phone call to him and discussing your relationship/friendship is worth it.

Good Luck! =]

Answer 20

Time heals all wounds,not memories. Either make up or move on.No other answer.