Ive never been so mad, How can I be mature in this situation?

Question

Okay my inlaws gave us a house, but they still live with us. There is this lady I cant stand that goes to our church that my mother in law feels sorry for becuase she is 35 and not married and both her parents are dead but she is the most annoying nosy lady on earth.

It was my birthday on tuesday and the lady was singing I want cake and I was like then go buy me one. (I had just made a pumpkin cheesecake for my husband and I)

She said I want pie give me some and I NEVER SAID YES I just stared at her for being so rude.

My inlaws and I share the fridge and they have been grabbing the pie, which is okay I guess because they are family even though they did eat alot and I only got 1 peice as well as my hubby. I am 6 months pregnant and was looking forward to that pie. I was upset that they had eaten it but I was like hey there family and they have given me alot so I blew it off.

So today I go to the kitchen and that annoying lady is there and she was like the pie was delicious, SHE ATE ALL OF IT!!!! SHe didnt even go and ask me for a piece she served herself in my home.

I was so made and all I said was thanks.

She didnt buy me a gift and she certantly doesnt derserve pie by any means.

She pretty much took everything I wanted that was my pie I had been looking forward to eating, Im pregnant and I live in a forgein country were I dont get all the treats I want but I made that treat to enjoy it. Im so sad and pissed and I just want to go and slap her but I know thats just my hormones.

What can I do to be mature about this?

Answer 1

I don't know how women deal with such a thing, but if it was men that person would have there shirt pulled over their head and a black eye.  

Answer 2

Its the hormones talking your pregnant... of course you annoyed... and why are the parents living w you guys.. weird... get a home or help them move out... how dumb.

Answer 3

You have every right to be mad and pissed off at this women. She is over stepping her bounderies. This is your home, your pie and your choice to offer it to someone!

#1. Sometime in a casual way tell this women that you didn't appreciate it that she ate "your" pie without asking you first. Explain to her that you made the pie for you and your hubby. That you don't appreciate her coming into "your" Kirtchen, in "your" home and stealing "your" pie!

#2. Also tell this women to butt out of your life. Tell her that you know that she may be close with the inlaws but this is your home too. Could she please respect that and call before she comes over.

#3. Tell the inlaws how you feel about this whole situation about this crazy women just showing up in "your" kitchen eating "your" pie.  How she is over stepping her bounderies. Also tell the inlaws that soon your baby will be born and for safty purposes you want noone in the house unless they call and ask first!

#4. Your situation will not change due to the fact that you live with these inlaws. This was there "home" first before you arrived. Which they think gives them the right to let whoever whenever into there home. They are taking it for granit that you live there too and you have rights. it is no wonder why this crazy lady lets herself in and out as she pleases. The inlaws have always let her do so. You need to put your foot down > NOW! and tell the inlaws that a baby is on the way and you will  Not have people coming and going without asking first. They could put your child in danger (leaving a door open, etc)

You aslo need to talk to your hubby about his parents doing this. The two of you needs to sit down with these peope and tell them exactly how you are feeling. If you don't prepare for nothing to change and it will not get any better

Answer 4

Approach her and tell her you are upset that she took some of your pie without asking, and tell her you would have given her some if she had extended the courtesy of asking.

Do not slap her. Or punch/kick her. You might want to tell her when you are more calm about the situation.

Remember... it was a pie. Not your wedding cake.  

Answer 5

omg all this over pie....rolling my eyes!

Answer 6

You sound like a little kid crying for a piece of candy. Yeah she was rude by doing that but it's nice to share.  Just tell her next time I'd appreciate it if you asked to eat some of the pie. I don't think it's that big of a deal.

Answer 7

What's your husband doing while all this is going on?

More than likely he's in the background trying to keep the peace. While you continue to suffer. His parents bought the house for him. not you. They are concerned for their son and want him to look like a good husband, especially to the church folk.

Pull some leverage, If he's not happy his parents won't be happy and will be quick to fix the problem. It won't look good at church if everyone knows their son has marital problems.

You've got more power than you realise. Use it. Your a grown married, pregnant woman. Be immature if you need to be!

Answer 8

Oh Dear...I feel you pain and totally understand the whole situation.  It is not good.  Would you get any comfort from your husband and tell him how you feel?  I think that is so important to tell someone how you feel and wait for their response.  Then you can analyze how you go from there.  It might give you an insight as to how he expects you to deal with this problem...and give you information...as to how you are going to deal with your husband and his parents.  Being upset is so not good at any time but much less when you are pregnant with the new little girl.  I wish you all the best.  Sometimes I have to have quiet time and think about how is the best way to persue something.  I would not put up with that situation, but I would have to think about what course of action would settle it with the least amount of everyone being upset....and how to confront others about why you are upset.  Oh, Honey, been there done that..........and will probably have to do it again.  

Answer 9

I don't think you are being immature about it, and I don't blame you for wanting a treat you had been saving for you and your baby. I have been there! You first need to talk toyour in-laws about some rules of the house. If you put it there, then maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to ask you first if they can give it to the neighbors. I understand they gave you the house, but you respect them, so why can't they respect you? With so many people living in one place , there has to be some rules. If the lady that comes over all the time is just there to eat, then you really need to put your foot down; you can't feed the whole neighborhood. What if she starts to tell people that you can go to their house and eat anytime? Then everybody would be there, I'm exaggerating a little bit, but I'm serious. Set some ground rules and talk to your in-laws alone about how you are feeling, adn get your husband involved too, after all they are his parents.

Answer 10

Call her out on it! She cant be rude to a pregnant lady! Seriously that chick is quite the ******!

Answer 11

First:  get a glass of water, and take some deep breaths.

Sit down with your husband.  Tell him this woman is too much for you to handle right now.  She is upsetting you a great deal, and you're worried about the baby.  If you keep having to deal with her, it could harm the baby.  Ask him to talk with his parents, particularly his mom, and to very firmly insist that for your health and that of your child, they have to stop entertaining this woman in your home.  It doesn't matter if his parents paid for the house, every stick of furniture in it, every stitch of clothing you own and every crumb of food in the house, your baby has to be the most important thing for everyone.  Not some poor woman from the church who is alone.

All that being said, if it is to be YOUR house, you have every right to ask the woman to leave.  You can do it nicely, but simply say you're not feeling well and would prefer no company around as it is too stressful right now.

Good luck.  Make certain you assert yourself, but get your husband to deal with his parents.  Congratulations on your child.