Jealousy is going to get the best of me...help!?

Question

Okay to make the story short a bunch of my friends and I tried out for show choir (singing & dancing) in May for high school and pretty much most of my friends made it expect me and two other friends which really sucks. Especially considering that I thought I had a fairly good audition. So now this weekend they had their get together thing to meet each other and they were all talking about it on Friday and now on facebook a bunch of them are posting pictures of it and keep talking about how fun it was. And ugh I can't help but be jealous because I didn't make it into the group and I haven't made it into many things that I've tried out for and it's really lowering my self esteem.

Do you have any advice to get over this jealousy and feel better about myself? I just wish I could find one thing that I'm really good at, and it hasn't happended yet and I'm really starting to think it will never happen.

Answer 1

I want to be honest. Either get over it and stay friends, or you will find new friends. Join the choir for now if you can. Try out again next year. Trust me, if you are not in (this is high school), then your friends will most likely dump you. I am just keepin it real. Just please, no matter what, don't go into drugs and bad stuff.

Answer 2

we have all been in your shoes. its natural to feel jealous. i know this sounds corny but think of all your good qualities. everyone is jealous of something...who knows, they might be jealous of you because of one of your talents.

try again next year. now you have more motivation and practice. good luck =]

Answer 3

if its something that you love keep working at it so next time you will have a great audition and not just a fairly good audition. As far as being jealous just be confident that you did your best, and maybe it wasn't for you to do this year, but if you really want it, and its meant for you, then you will get it next time.  

Answer 4

Ugh I totally know what you mean. I didn't make the auditions for the school musical twice in a row and I may not try out this year becasue the rejection hurts too much!

All I can tell you is that you need to try out again next year. This coming year, improve your chances of making it by taking some dance classes and really working at them. Treat every class like an audition. Also, you could take singing classes and again, take them very seriously. The more work you put into something, usually the outcome is more positive.

As for your friends, next time they're talking about it, politely ask them if they could talk about it somewhere else becasue it still is a sensitive topic.

If you have the courage, youcould even ask one of your friends that made it for help to increase your chances of making it.

I would never do that last idea lol just becasue I can't bring myself to do that, but I know that it would be helpful.

Good luck!!!