Jealousy over my boyfriends ex wife?

Question

We have been together for 3 yrs. In the beginning, he would talk about his ex constantly, even when we went to dinner! He would talk to her behind my back and tell me they didn't talk. They have no children and she is the one that wanted the divorce. I can't even dye my hair without having him tell me that the way she did hers was a better way to do it. Also 2 yrs ago he told me that I don't hold a candle to her, he says he was just angry. Talk about hurtful! He finally doesn't talk about her as much, But we were watching the news this morning and he says oh that looks just like my ex's boyfriend. He swears he doesn't have feelings for her anymore, but it justs seems hard to believe. And he wonders why I feel insecure? Plus we've been engaged for 2 1/2 yrs. and he has always had excuses for not setting a date. which I don't even care about marrying him anymore anyway. It's just another thing that makes me wonder. Am I being paranoid or would anyone else have the same feelings?

Answer 1

I would have told him to stick that candle up his a**.....What are you doing with this jerk? Are you having fun? Is he making you a smarter and stronger person? No, obviously. This relationship has been over for a while, it seems. I would feel insecure as well and I would have left him after that nasty comment. I would dump him fast...like now, seriously.  Nobody needs that c**p.

Answer 2

So why did you waste three years on this piece of trash?  I would have hightailed it out of there the minute I found out he still holds a torch for her.  He wants her back, and the minute she decides she wants him back, if it ever happens, you'll be history.  Let's hope you aren't having s*x with him, because risking making a baby with this jerk isn't a smart move.

Leave him TODAY, and don't EVER look back.  You can find someone else who won't use you for s*x.  The best way to prevent that is to wait until marriage for s*x.

Answer 3

ok, him saying you "don't hold a candle" to his ex is more than hurtful.  You're blinded by love, and you're letting yourself be hurt for no reason.  You need to wake up and realize he still loves his ex, and it sounds like he will lover her more than you forever.  Why would you want to live like that?