Jealousy over my brother in law?

Question

Well I just married my husband around May of 08, and I moved in with him and his brother. Its extremely hard to get my husband to talk to me about anything other than video games or D&D. He can sit there and talk to his brother about anything for hours, while I can't be around to hear it. Is it normal to feel jealous of my brother-in-law?

Answer 1

Why are you living with his brother?  If you are married start your own life.  Why is he still playing DD and video games?  I don't think you need to be jealous, but you need to bring him something to temp him away from kid's games.  Use your imagination and your God given assets on that one.  Good luck.

Answer 2

Your newlyweds and all your husband wants to talk about is video games and Dungeons and Dragons..I would not monogram your towels yet. I am predicting that you will be divorced in five years. It sounds like a boring life and he sounds very immature.

Answer 3

Well its normal to feel something...jealous??  Only if you want to be a video GEEK then yeah...did you not notice this before you said youd marry him???  As Dr Phil would say...What the h**l were you thinkin.....HE'S AN IMMATURE NERD

Answer 4

You and your husband need a place of your own.  It really sounds like he needs to grow up.  He's married now.  He has a responsibility to you, and tell that in a loving way.  Video games are fine but you want to know about him.  Good luck.  

Answer 5

Hi Rina,

I'm sure you've heard it before, but living with in-laws right after your wedding can be... hard on a new marriage. You two have SO much growing and bonding and problem-solving to do in the next two years, your living situation is not exactly going to help. If it's not possible to move into your own place yet, work toward it as a high-priority goal.

When two people marry, they become the most important people in the world to eachother. They, over time, become best friends through trial and error and LOTS of communication. The good sign is that your husband has the ability to be a great communicator (as indicated by his long talks with his brother). When you and your husband are alone together, tell him you feel there's a wall between you and that you would like to feel closer to him. And that talking to one another like friends do, is a great way to connect and feel close.

Good luck!