Jealousy <span title="---------------HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!?">---------------HELP!!!!!!...</span>

Question

I am probably the most JEALOUS person on this plant---I get jealous about everything and always want to be first and everything and the best-----ANY advice of how I can overcome this???? I admit it and I hate it but it's just this natural feelings I get!!!!

I am always MORE concerned what others are doing...

Answer 1

Am I correct is saying that you are also insecure, need constant validation from your mate to feel contantly loved by them, sometimes try to make them jealous or set up situations to ttest their loyalty to you?

It comes from leaving your worth and value in too many other people&#039;s hands, what they think of you is that you decide to think of yourself, and if it is a bad report, you tantrum...jealousy can be a way to do that.

You actually  need to accept yourself for who you are, not take on anyone else&#039;s opinion of you because afterall they only see you for a brief moment in time, how do they truly know who you are, what you&#039;re motives are and why you did whatever you do?

God knows you intimately, and He adores you, (otherwise, why would He have died for you? Now that is love) He knows everything you do and why you do it, totally understands it, and He still accepts you, and is for you, so who can be against you if the Creator of the Whole world loves you....why should the actions of any puny human rule your reactions?

Hope that helps with the jelousy issue.

Mel

Answer 2

Then it&#039;s time you appreciated what you have, who you are, and just the way things are. First of all, sloth is bad. It&#039;s one of the 7 sins for a reason:  It attracts bad karma and brings out the worst in people, and the fact that they focus on that alone lets them forget what they need to make themselves happy. We all go with this you know, even those who think themselves saints. After all, we&#039;re human, and we have to accept that ordeal alone if we&#039;re going to get anywhere in life. Do you like yourself? Do you think you have to prove something to someone? Do you feel unsatisfied with your life? Like, you want to be in the top quarter of the kids and maybe you&#039;re but you are jealous of those on top of you. Hon, maybe you&#039;re doing better than they are. Those kids maybe doing great just because the are, while others are just ambitious, and some just have that in their life, because it&#039;s the only thing they have, like i did not long ago. You think you have to be like them to get happy. Grow up. You could be be the most gorgeous, kindest, most sincere person in there and not know it!  I want you to do the following to ge over this, and i promise you will be happy:Appreciate being alive and having a home and family and friends or more because believe or not, some people have nothing but their life. When you feel like you&#039;re going to s***w something up or something will go wrong, scratch it out of your head and go with the flow. You can&#039;t control everything. Plus, life is more exciting that way. Chase after your dreams even if it&#039;s less ambitious than those you envy, because some of them will not do what they want and be miserable with it while you&#039;ll be succeeding at what you want, making more of it because you love it and dedicated towards it, and be happy. daydream or even get a journal and write or dream your own happy ending. Think of it this way, if you BF is dating you ex, it&#039;s bad but is up to you o decide how bad.Basically, don&#039;t brood over failure and think ahead.When you say you could do something, supported by taking action, Say you&#039;re a student and you want to do community service or a bake sale and you say you&#039;re in. Then do do it and do what you can and only excel your limits when you think you can afford to do so. Be nice and treat people kindly even if it just comes out random. Smile for a sad or stoic looking person, maybe they&#039;ll smile back but if they don&#039;t, that doesn&#039;t mean you didn&#039;t make their day feel better. When you pass by a nursing home or something, smile at the people. They might be lonely, and even if you don&#039;t get near them but you see each other form far away smile and wave for them. They&#039;ll be warmed up.  When you set a goal, aim for what you want instead what you don&#039;t want. Say you want to lose weight but you don&#039;t want to do exercise. That means your motivation reeks. So do this, instead of wanting to lose weight, do it for your health. Yeah!, scream it in your head, &quot; i want to get healthy and therefore I&#039;ll lose weight, and look to die for, and be smiling so much about it I can&#039;t smile with my mouth closed anymore.&quot; And make a deadline on them, and have fun and be proud of yourself for getting closer. Be with people and do stuff you want and do random stuff. Say you want to meet new people and have fun, then join new clubs no matter how weird it is or uncool it sounds, just for the sake of discovering something new. Chances are, you&#039;ll be happier for doing something unique and meeting more people. And therefore not as competitive. Be happy of what you do best. I am super crafty and ideas for making stuff keep coming and coming that i don&#039;t know what to do anymore. I&#039;m very good with arts too. And every chance i get to use it whether it&#039;s cooking or school or work or clothes or life, i do and love it. What do you love and what can you do best. Looking at you, you notice everything. What else can you do? Then apply those things to everything you do.  You&#039;ll feel motivation and inspiration and happiness because you are being you and being of use. Just appreciate yourself hon. And most importantly, do something, exercise, laugh, visit different places, just do something. You&#039;ll be more alert and more adept to anything. When you felt something&#039;s bad, make it positive: Fear of talking in front of people or class, then go, &quot;I&#039;ll rock it and get respect, a raise, and admirers. &gt;_^&quot;. Focus on you and not them. And do this weird thing I do just to shake the bad feelings out: Turn the most fun music you&#039;ve got and just shake it. Dance, jump, dance naked if you want. It feel awesome. And you&#039;re focusing on your feelings at the moment. Don&#039;t worry, you&#039;ll get over it. And no, if you were wondering, you&#039;re not bad, just a person like everyone else.

Buena suerte and wish you the best,

Ana M.

Answer 3

Well when you get jealous about something think before you speak or come up to anybody so you dont have a bad look on your face think about how to make jealousy a compliment and tell that person your compliment it will make them feel better and even if you dont want to do it it will help you conscience get over some of it.. if you jealous about not being the best or most popular than just think of not how good or better they are which makes you more jealous but think of what can make you better if you want to be the best just try not to show it people dont like it!