Jehovah witness 13 year old. wat do i do?

Question

i am a 13 year old girl. i am a jw but not really my dad makes me and i d not see myself one in the future my dad does not let me date and wont in till i am 18! i find that mean and cruel. i have a bff that s a guy and without out him i would probly kill myself. my dad says i cant hav friends that r guys. both my parents dont get me and are always mad at me. i have never had a birthday or any holiday and that is ok but it stills hurts. i really want my dad 2 kno that i will not be a jehovah witness when i grow up and i do not belive what he belives. wat do i do. should i just waIT IN till i am 18 and then leave?

Answer 1

My friend has this exact problem.

Wait until you're 18 and respect their wishes or you won't have a very good relationship with your parents

Answer 2

I don't think that you should tell him as of right now...some parents just think that there way of living is the best, but only God(from a christian stand point don't know if you have a god or not) knows what is best for you!

Answer 3

I had to go through something similar.

I'm you're age too btw.

My mom believes in that religion. But my dad doesn't want to have anything at all to do with that. I really don't know what I believe in.

When I was younger, all those kids had birthday parties & had Christmas time & holidays but I had to say "oh I can't go" or make up some excuse, even though I didn't have a religion.

My mother never really explained why I couldn't celebrate stuff. So I read the excyclopedia (i'm not a nerd!!) and I read about where Christmas, Birthdays, and other holidays come from. You won't believe the truth. And many people don't want to except it. It used to hurt me too. Now I just see it as a stupid occassion where everyone pretends to "love" and "care", and the next day they hate each other!!! And who would want to celebrate getting old??

I don't know what I believe in. You're still young, and you haven't had much experience YET. I've met many people who were young and went to the meetings. But as they got older they decided whether or not they wanted to continue.

Although, many people got lots of help from Jehovah Witnesses.

I don't think you should make up you're mind now. Go with you're parents rules & then when the time comes, you will know if you should or should not go on with the religion.



Email me, if you want to talk.

Hope this helps : )

xo Julie ox

Answer 4

s***w parents s***w religion do what you want to do.

Tell your parents you dont believe in their religion, no one can force to to believe bullshit.

Answer 5

You sound like a very emotional young woman, part of growing up.

If you want to, go ahead and tell your father, however, don't expect your not liking the rules to change them.

The fact that you are sneaking around makes things even worse.  You say your parents are always mad at you.  Probably your parents are upset with you often, because, even if they don't know what you are doing, it's clear to them you are sneaking around and lying.

Answer 6

Don't  give up and stick to your ideals.  If you don't believe what they want you to believe, that is ok.  Don't do it because they want you to--only do it if it feels right.  I lived without any freedom until I was 17 and then I met my best friend (a guy!) who changed everything and made me a better person.  I am 25 years old now and still a good person, but I live on my own terms and I am much happier.  Sadly you may have to put up with it for a while, but you will know the right time to leave and start your own life.

Answer 7

I suggest that you research other religions from reliable sources. In other words don't just browse the internet for answers because they can lie sometimes (A LOT) ha ha research beliefs that make sense to you and feel good when you learn about it. Feeling good about it is a big key. I'll be honest with you and if I get smacked around for saying it, I don't care because this is who I am and I know it's true! I am LDS (Mormon) (which is a branch of Christianity). As a teen, I hated it because I felt like I wasn't free and couldn't have fun. But as I grew up and matured and really studied the things that I've been taught, I came to find out that doing those things that I was taught really FELT GOOD! I was happy no matter what was happening in my life because I was doing what I knew was right I couldn't have been happier.

So my advice is to research. And if you can talk to your parents about the beliefs they have and why they have those beliefs. Also, bring up your concerns so they can understand where you stand and help you through difficult times.

Good luck, love. Do what you feel is right...not what you think, but what you feel! :)

Answer 8

I am a witness born and raised...And you are too young talking about doing what you want to do. You have to understand that is your parents house, their rules, and you have NO say so its that simple. It sux but when you get older you will understand.

I am 20 my parents do things and i get mad but u know what if your parents let you go wild and do anything you want they don't care about you. Your parents have been around longer than you have.

As far as being a witness you know nothing about the world and what it has to offer to you. This world is controled by satan and he makes things look so nice. Its sort of like a gift the outside is so nice but when you unwrap it its disgusting on the inside. If you believe the bible read it. And pray. Ask other Young people your age who are witnesses see why they believe in it. Personally I believe this is the only true religion because I know this world has nothing to offer ive seen it firsthand...ive done things that if i would have messed up i would have to live w/ the results for the rest of my life but i am grateful nothing bad happened.

So you really need to understand that your parents want you to have the best in life.

Answer 9

Hi hunni

Your dad is able to enforce your religion on you, but there are laws that can be enforced, if you " no longer believe " that would be about your only way out.

My friend was a member of the " Plymouth Brotheren " & she was shunned for marrying out of her religion, but I respect her life choice, as to marry within her religion would have meant her marrying either 1 of her uncles, or 1 of her first cousins, which under uk law would have been un lawful, so I say " yeah Go Cazz ! "

At the end of the day though hunni, your life is yours to live. You don't state where you are from, but you can';t be forced into a religion, you have rights too, under the children's act (uk) & the human rights act (EU).

I suggest you run searches online & check out exactly what rights you have.

Good Luck hunni. (religion should be a choice, not a life filled with misery ! ) X :-)

Answer 10

see if anyone else in your family is another religion and see if ask your dad can u move to that religion cause you are not confortable with the beliefs

Answer 11

You have the ethical right to choose your own religion.

Answer 12

you can tell him what he wants to hear and the do want you want with out him knowing.

it will only work if your a good lying.

Answer 13

my daughter's junior high friend (12 yrs old) has been a JW for 4 years now.. She is allowed to have male friends, just not a 'boyfriend' and if the fella is over her mother must be able to see the two of them, so they sit in the living room and watch tv and visit together. She grew up having birthdays and christmas, and the transition was very tough. Her big sister didn't choose to be JW, so when she stays with her sister, they can do non-jw things out of mom's earshot. maybe you can try and find a non-confrontational friend your mom would like and got visit her and relax outside of mom's view.

Answer 14

You are young, and you will go through many changes in the future. Don't make your mind up just yet, but don't just go through the motions either. Talk to your parents, they love you and just want what is best for you. Believe me, they do "get you". You need to talk to them about how you feel! You will probably still have to go to the hall, because it is their responsibility to teach you the truth, if they did not, they would be held accountable to Jehovah. But you still need to let them know how you feel. It will be hard, but it needs to be done. They deserve it, and so do you!