Just Guys!Would you divorce your wife because of this?

Question

This is a strange question and I'm not married and I don't have kids but here it goes.

You are married and you have a baby.You m********e and you have a sexual thought about your child.You don't want your child sexually because that's just disgusting.It just popped in your mind.You're not going to bother your child sexually.This thought really scared you and you hated the thought.You didn't even want to have the thought.Is this a thought that the devil brings to you?Everyone has bad thoughts but as long as we don't yeild to them then we're not bad people,right?Would your husband divorce you for having the thought?

And is this how you know that you don't want to have s*x with your child?

You love your child just not sexually.

You don't want to hurt your child.

It's wrong.

You don't want a divorce from your husband.

You don't want to go to jail.

I'm just asking.I'm not married and I don't have kids but I just want to know.It's just a thought.I know you all are saying "This is sick and disgusting!".I agree but it's a thought not an action.There are some people who are strong enough to not act on the thought and stop thinking about it.Everyone who has answered this question has once in their life had bad thoughts but as long as we don't act on them,we have not sinned,right?So would a husband divorce the wife even though she didn't and diesn't intend on acting on the thought?

Nobody is understanding this question.If you are not going to act on the thought and hated the thought then therefore,you do not want to hurt the child.Why would your spouse divorce you over just having the thought when you have no intentions to hurt the child?Isn't this something that you can work out if you love each other?I also think that I might have OCD.I have a lot of symptoms of OCD such as doing things repititively,bad thoughts and images,being afriad of being contaminated,checking things over and over again,having really bad uncontrlollable bad thoughts about anything and everything,things I wouldn't even act on.I have more symptoms.I'm not saying this is me but what if you are so tortured by the thoughts that you are about to commit suicide because you think that the child will be better off without you.You do not want to hurt the child.It was just a thought that you don't intend to have again.You're not going to act on it either so why should a husband divorce his wife over that?Would you divorce your wife because of all of this?

You're not sexually attracted to your child.It was just a thought,not an action or an intended action.Everyone has bad thoughts at least once in their life!How can this be a cause for a divorce?!?!?Is this a cause for a divorce or something?

While you were masturbating,you also thought about your son masturbating when he gets older and that turned you on.I thought any sexual image can turn a person on.You didn't want it to turn you on.It was like a fantasy!You stopped masturbating because of all of this.You didn't want the thoughts anymore so you just quit it completely.You are not tortured by the thoughts but you are tortured by the thought that you had them.You try to block them out!You have no intention to touch the child.You know that it's wrong and think that people who do it are sick.When you were really really young,you watched or ooked for children p**n but you were about 12 but you don't do it anymore because,let's face it,it's wrong and it should be illegal.Would a husband divorce his wife or get her help?Which would you do?

What if your mind is trying to trick you into thinkng that you do want to harm your child,you wouldn't do it,you love your child.Is that just your mind playing tricks on you?Will the husband still want a divorce from the wife?What would you do if you were the husband?

Answer 1

I suggest you quit posting here if you don't want to go to jail.  

Answer 2

Wow you stress way to much that you didn't have this thought that this is just a random question.  But come on do you think anyone believes it.  To much detail to be random.  even having the thought is NOT proper.  My advice is seek counsiling.  oh child pornography IS illegal ( you said it should be well it is).

Definately seek counsiling (even if you don't have a child and this is random)  But if your not married why have mrs. at the begining of your im?  You need to seek help now.

Answer 3

Why would u be wondering about that????????????

You may need to talk to someone REALLY!!!!

Gross!!!!

Answer 4

I'm not a guy, I'm a woman who has a daughter. And if my husband said he had the thought you speak of.  Yes I would divorce him.

Answer 5

Your question is long but my answer isn't.

Your husband has probably lost all faith and trust in you because you had the thought. Whether you acted on it or not isn't the question - the nature of the thought casts a very dark, nightmarish shadow and your husband shall never be able to think of you in the same way.

If you husband has indicated he wishes to divorce you based on this, you might do well to prepare yourself for single life.

Answer 6

first of all: you should apologize for asking this, and for making something gross that long

second of all: you need some help

Answer 7

That's disgusting and it's still sin even if you don't act out on it. I would leave my husband if he admitted to having a thought like that.  Those are my little girls and I didn't struggle to bring them into this world for someone to eventually take their innocence away without permission.  A filthy thought like that is the first step of pedophilia.  I would not risk my daughter's safety no matter how much I love him.  A thought like that would end it all.  You should not have children and stay away from other people's kids too.  Even posting a question like this means you are messed up in the head and that can't be rehabilitated.  Even the child molester's that supposedly don't do it anymore still have thoughts about children and urges they have to resist.  It's sick!

Answer 8

You are one sick MF.

Answer 9

very long question!~

Answer 10

Go get some professional help.

Answer 11

if the woman kept it a secret, the husband would never know, however, if she decided to confide in the husband, he would probably get freaked out or VERY disturbed, and leave her... he would also seek custody of said child, and it would be likely he would win... she on the other hand, Might just need to see a therapist...

Answer 12

Here's my answer.

If a wife told her husband that she was having such thoughts about their child, no matter whether she thought she would ever act upon them, I think she should there and then get into some serious therapy. That way of thinking is neither normal or healthy. And if she refuses too, the husband can and should take the children from her to protect them.

"The Thought is Parent to the Deed". If she was turned on sexually while thinking that way - you say she was masturbating - then it is a very real problem that needs to be addressed right away. Many a pedophile doesn't "intend" to act on those feelings, to create a victim,  until the opportunity presents itself, and the temptation is allowed to be there at the same time.

The father has a duty to protect the child/children, even from their own mother.

Answer 13

YOU ARE ONE SICK JERK THAT NEEDS TO BE LOCKED UP. SO I KNOW MY KIDS IS SAFE. I HOPE YOU DONT LIVE CLOSE TO ME OR ANYONE ELSE WITH CHILDREN

Answer 14

What is this mess? The best thing for you to do is turn yourself in as a pedophile in training.

Only a DOLT would even joke about something like this!

Answer 15

Do you honestly think that most of these posters have ANY comprehension of the bad thoughts aspect of OCD? Most of these people don't say a thing about it, so assume they don't know a thing about it. Don't listen to all the c**p they're telling you, either. Now, before you marry or have children, talk to your psychiatrist about these thoughts. I think that you will be told that your thoughts are not uncommon for someone with OCD. Are you taking meds to control the thoughts? You should be. Mental Health Mental Retardation services are available to low-income, uninsured people. I wish you the best. YOu probably don't want to open yourself up to the ignorant criticism of the general public by posting these sorts of ideas on here.