Just a massage, not s*x...?

Question

Ok, I'm dating this girl and we've agreed not to have s*x. Have your opinion on that, idc, that's not the point.

Anyways, I love giving massages, I'm really good at them and I think it's a great way to express how you feel about someone. Well, one of my greatest techniques is a full body massage with a happy ending ;D

Well, anyways, she always gets really nervous and finds an excuse to get up when I get to her butt and thighs. Now don't get me wrong, we still do stuff other than s*x, but it's like she doesn't trust me. Like I'm going to take advantage of her when I get around there. Now if those were my intentions, yes I could. But they aren't. My main goal is to make her feel great, that's it. I don't want s*x, I don't even want her to return the favor, I just want her to feel good. How can I convince her of this? It hurts my feelings when she doesn't trust me.

Answer 1

I honestly think it's because for one reason or another she is self conscious about her bum and thighs. She may think they are fat/untoned/not attractive etc. Just reassure her how attractive you find her body.

Answer 2

maybe she doesnt trust herself?  

Answer 3

I don't think the issue is trust, I think the issue is that she doesn't like having her butt and thighs massaged.  Not everyone likes to be touched everywhere during a massage.

I don't think you should try to convince her or think of this as a trust issue.  

You should think of it as something she doesn't just like.

You want to be thought of as good at s*x type stuff?  Stop doing things she doesn't like.

Answer 4

i think she might be a little self-concious  and not open with her body.or maybe she doesnt  trusts herself..its not you.i think shes afraid that your massaging might lead to foreplay which may eventually lead to s*x which is what she doesnt want obviously.just sit down and talk to her about it.itll be fine(: hope i helped a little

-aubrielle

Answer 5

Sounds like you two need to sit down and talk, not while during a massage.  She may have her reasons why she gets uncomfortable at that point that have nothing to do with you.  Tell her what you have explained here!  Communication is key in any relationship.  

Good luck!