l've heard it said by a couple of birthparents that placing a child for adoption is a very complex decision, involving many different emotions, which l'm sure it is. However, l've also heard it suggested that children should be informed of all these emotions, residues of guilt, etc, to help them truly understand their birthparents, rather than portray it in a more positive light. Now, l hope nobody takes offense at this, l'm thinking of the children when l write this, not either set of parents, but doesn't anyone else find that unfair? l feel that is quite an adult and unjust burden to place on a child or even an adult. After all, a child makes no decisions about their birth, their family, or their family of origin. Why should parents, with all due respect, ask their children to understand the range of emotions and problems that their birthparents may be suffering? Does anyone else agree with this, or have a different opinion? What l'm basically asking is.. (cont.)
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