Just found out that my boyfriend cheated...?

Question

We have been dating since college. Anyhow, he tells me that he cheated( if that weren't enough) but also that he has a son( who is almost a year old) with this woman. I am looking for ideas on how to deal with this. Anyone ever dealt with this? Any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

I don't understand why you even feel the need to "deal" with it. He cheated and he has a son that he didn't tell you about? That's beyond betrayal...

Answer 2

well how long have you been with him and do you want to stay talk to him about it  

Answer 3

I think its very respectable that he was honest with you. I know a woman who didnt find out that her husband had a second family of 5 kids until he died. Then his other family showed up at the funeral.

I would just leave him. He is going to be spending his money on child support now. What good is he to you now? His pocket is owned by another woman and her baby.

Answer 4

Run away!  Hang with your friends and family and find ways to deal on your own, but away from him. I wouldn't even call him anymore or see him at all. That's crazy.

Answer 5

Normally I would be giving you subjection on how to make it work, but in this case I think that you need to end it.  He cheated and has a son that is almost 1 years old.....Meaning for 12 mts he kept that baby a secret...Who knows what else he is keeping from you....Or if he is still sleeping with the baby mother....Tell him cheating is one thing, but a baby is unacceptable......Walk away,  Just think if you stayed you will never be able to forget that he cheated because the baby would be a constance reminder.....He made his bed now let him lay in it with his son...