Just need some advice and confidence building..?

Question

I am currently 12 weeks pregnant, with my first baby. When I found out, the babys father, who i have been in a relationship with for a year, told me to get an abortion or he was leaving. well abortion wasnt an option for me, so i said i was keeping the baby. sure enough, he broke up with me. i was living with him at his parents at the time, we were planning on moving in an apartment in early august. well his parents say i have a place to stay here with them as long as i need to. hes moving to the apartment in a couple weeks anyways. he wants me out of his house but like his parents said, its not his choice. his reason for not wanting the child is "he feels trapped and cant handle a relationship and a child". ive made the decision to move on from him, im no longer trying like i was for so long. ive looked into programs to help me out, and possibly getting a place to stay. just need some advice, and maybe personal stories to help me keep my head held up. thanks.

Answer 1

As long as his parents have told you that you can stay there then I would stay if I were you. It's their house, not his, therefore its not his decision. Good for you on keeping the baby. As far as him just forget about him and move on and make a life for yourself and your baby. As long as you do what you have to do for you child, that's all that matters.

Answer 2

Well it sounds like at least his parents will provide some emotional support if you need it. I think that if you have the resourses that you should indeed move out of his parents place but if not don't feel bad about staying until you can afford one. He might just need some time to adjust to a baby. It is a big step and not all men are ready from the get go. You do need to let him know that weather or not he decides to take an active role in this babys life he will need to pay child support to help raise it. And don't shut out his parents, sounds like they want a grandchild!

Answer 3

You have a good support system in them so to h**l with him.  He's not the last man on Earth.

Answer 4

Good for you girl!

Don't take that c**p from him!

But also, make sure he's in the kids life.

As for the living situation. I think you need to move out of his parents house ASAP.

They might be cool with it, but its awkward as heck for you and your ex.

As for any advice, just surround yourself with loved ones.

They'll help you through everything and make sure you and the baby are safe and sound.

Good luck and congratulaions on your baby!!

--Heather

Answer 5

Good for you for choosing life !

My sister was 16 and got pregnant. She was so scared, my dad sang in a gospel quartet and she was afraid he would be ashamed.  Well, after the initial shock, they had her tutored through the pregnancy she finished high school. Then she went to college. She recently married her son is 25. She is the Regional Manager of Advance Auto Parts.  Makes great money.  

We had a ball when the baby was born, I wasn't much older, so he was like a little baby doll to us.  

She did have help, mostly God through church people. But no man had to help her. She did it on her own. I took her out in my mustang and taught her to drive, then I had to make her go take the test.  She has grandchildren now and is loving life!  you can too !!!!!!!