My friend started going out with a real creep a few months ago, I already had feelings for her when she did, so I just pushed it to the back of my mind and tried to move on. I found this girl and talked to her a bit, I didn't like her all that much, but I figured maybe I would grow in to it. She broke up with that guy because she realized they had nothing to talk about, and because he was overall just a weird person.
After that happened, all these feelings came rushing back, and I ended up telling her one day how I felt, and she said she was surprised, and that she liked me as well, but she acknowledged the relationship I was currently in, and as did I. My relationship was not going over well anyway, so I broke up with her and told the girl I liked beforehand what I was doing.
One thing I noticed was that she brought up her ex boyfriend a lot, maybe trying to hint at that she was not ready for a relationship just yet.
Over the next few weeks, we hung out a lot, and got quite far. I asked her out three weeks after a really wonderful deep conversation, and we did a lot after that, she then said that she did not know.
So she kind of left me hanging there, then a week later, we did something similar to that night, and the next day I told her that my feelings had advanced, and that I was in love with her. She seemed flattered, but then again told me she is not ready for a relationship.
So I do not really understand, we both did a lot of things together, and we got quite far, I almost feel led on, and then I brought up that if we weren't going to date, then that we should probably hold off on the physical part for a while, I really don't think its right to do stuff like that while not in a relationship, and she hesitated for a bit and agreed.
I know it seems lame that I said that I'm in love with her, but I really am, we have so much in common, and we have the most wonderful conversations, she's incredibly good looking and she's intelligent.
To sum it all up, what do you think the best thing would be? She said for me to just maybe try dating other people, but frankly, I do not want to, I think perhaps she might just be trying to see how loyal I really am because of past relationships that have ended up getting her hurt. I'm thinking of just waiting for her to be ready.
What do you believe I should do?
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