Just noticed how rubbish my parents are...?

Question

When i was little. I was put to bed at 7.30 EVERY NIGHT, even on weekends. And i had to stay there and not move.

my mum got re-married and had another child who is 7 now.

This is what happend tonight, that i really just can't believe.

Fern, my little half sister who is 7.. was in bed..

Fern: "DADDDDD IM HUNGRY GET ME SOME FOOD"

Her Dad: "No, Fern.. youv'e not long had dinner"

Fern: "YOUR NOT ME, YOU DONT KNOW IF IM HUNGRY OR NOT"

Her Dad: "No!, go to sleep!"

Fern: "I HATE U"

Her Dad: "Fine, you can have a packet of crisps and that's it"

And then later on the night she started complaining about a book thats gone missing. And then my mum and step dad, like a couple of T***s, search high and low for it. How is that going to sleep? I would of told her to wait till the morning. There such bad parents. And fern is a little bratt. I know she's my half sister but i really dislike her somtimes and i know its the bad parenting skills that have made her like this. But seriously i even hate my parents.

What advice can a 16 year old give her mother on parenting skills without her step dad tryin to attack her again because i aparently think im the boss of the house and tryin to be an adult?

thanks

Answer 1

I think some of the answers have been unfair on you. It's bound to be difficult for you having to adapt to having someone who isn't your dad laying down the law. You can see that your mum has willingly and happily  changed her rules to suit you. (I'm guessing by your ages that it was your mum's rule, rather than your dad's that you had to be in bed etc). You have a right to feel aggrieved, but what to do about it?

First of all you already realise that it's not Fern's fault, so maybe you can try not to blame her too much. Secondly, maybe you can have a quiet word with your mum when your step-dad isn't around and point out that she isn't being fair to you, or true to herself by falling in with your step-dad's ways to that extent without at least acknowledging that she isn't being fair to you. Other than that, you have little choice but to accept things as they are and make plans for your own life and leave them to get on with theirs. Then maybe, when you are an old lady of 26 with your own home and career, and your little sister is an impossible teenager you can say I told you so.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have more jealousy for her than you do the rubbish you think you have figured out in your parents.

Jealousy, just like hate grows within you and festers in you like mold. It affects you more than it does anyone you direct it toward.

Answer 3

When there is an age gap your going to notice differences on upbringing, times have changed and alot of parents have changed too, I wouldn't say they are bad parents, Yes your sister does sound spoiled, perhaps your parents are lots older and just give in because they want a quiet life? I'd say let them handle her their own way, then nothing can be said to you..  

Answer 4

saying that ur parents are rubbish is pretty disrespectful no matter what they have done they are still ur parents

"Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which The Lord thy God giveth thee" (Exodus 20:12 KJV)

Answer 5

Sounds like you jealous of a little 7 year old!!!

You comparing her upbringing to yours!

You can't comment on your parents parenting skills because you acting too immature about it all.

Just because you may deal with it differently doesn't mean your parents are rubbish parents! They just have their own parenting technique and if it works for them and makes them happy, let them get on with it.

Until you grown up and mature enough to have your own kids you no idea how hard it is.

You may one day have your own child and find yourself doing exact same thing.

In mean time learn to be mature as jealously is such an ugly trait!

Lx  

Answer 6

ALL parents of 16year olds are rubbish.   They grow out of it (or you do!!)

Answer 7

Ooooo dear to be honest i think u might just have to stick it out til u move out i kno its hard. maybe u could say  'your spoiling her' or 'she doesnt need tht' when they do something, it can be hard i know

sorry this ent the best advice!

x

Answer 8

Talk to your mom about it. And learn from it, these are the kind of things that will help you to realize what kind of parent you would like to be.

best of luck :]

Answer 9

give them no advice,when your half sister grows up and gets even more stroppy and demanding towards your parents just remind them of the way they beckon to her every whim in the way they do now

Answer 10

Jealously is an ugly trait in a young lady, and to be jealous of a 7 year old kid....

Answer 11

Say nothing. Much better policy.

And when they ask you to babysit, lay down the law with that child. She can wrap her parents around her little finger, but you are another story. And let her blab to the parents! Tell them you're perfectly happy if they want to set up a CCTV camera system in the house, because you have nothing to hide.

They are far more likely to shell out for another babysitter than go the CCTV route. Which means you are off the hook as are as your little sister is concerned. As soon as you are old enough, move out.