Just recently my children were bungy-corded to a fence and one child touched inappropriately?

Question

When one of my daughters asked to be realeased and struggled with the cords, she had a bow and arrow pointed at her (the bow pulled) and told to get back. My son told the kids he had to go to the bathroom, and the same child poked him in the p***s with some sort of a robot arm (like a pick-up arm), and my son urinated on himself.

I have called the police and made a report but the back lash in my neighborhood has been horriable.

My question is, where are the boundaries for play? This took place at another neighbors home, and she seems to think this was just a "Boys will be boys" thing. Doesn't "No" mean "No" anymore? Is it okay for one child to humiliate and inappropriately touch another in play? How did I become the bad guy? Oh, and footnote, I did try to talk to the other Mom first, total disaster!

Answer 1

I wouldn't let my children play with them anymore! Your not the bad guy you were being a good parent!  If you know your right in this situation don't worry what other people are thinking.

Answer 2

Take her tocourt. Periiod

Answer 3

wow, this is way over the line, especially to have the other parents not to care. This may happen sometimes but usually when parents find out it stops. Im sorry but I wouldn't let your kids play anywhere near them anymore. It sounds like the parents are immature and things may get worse. Also the whole family may have some issues if they think this is normal play.

Answer 4

It is sad these days how some parents raise their children.  You are not the bad guy, they are. But they are making you out to be the bad guy cause they know you are right. That or they are embarrassed at their own child's behavior and/or are in denial that their child would ever act that way.

"Boys will be boys" is just an excuse, and since when does that saying go when there is a girl involved? I'm sorry. That is poor, poor parenting on their part and they should be ashamed of themselves. That is not playing, that is torturing.

Good for you for calling the cops. And since the parents have such a disgusting attitude about it, i would do as much as i can (legally of course) to punish them for hurting my kids.  And you should do the same.

I am so sorry this has happened to you and your children.  Just ignore those who are giving your problems over it. If they can not understand your view in this, then they are lousy human beings.   Good luck and i hope those parents are held liable for it.

Answer 5

If talking to the mother was a disaster, I think talking to the boy would have been worse...which is what I'd have had my husband do...Let him scare that little boy into urinating on himself.

Answer 6

You totally did the right thing. Not many people know this, but abusive play like that is often a sign of a bigger problem in the childs house and calling the cops could have made the first steps to helping the child who is doing the abusing. Also I'm sure it made an impression on the neighborhood, ( albeit they may not be happy right now) that assault and battery isn't just play - and there's no way in he** you will put up with that for your children. You're a good mother, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Answer 7

that is disturbing on many levels. you should be worried and are in the right.  its disturbing to think that that is how those children ammuse themselves (at the expense of your child).  you should not have been put as the bad guy. try to put your child in a different environment...maybe a camp where there are children with common intrests so he will not be picked on.

Answer 8

You were 100% right for what you did.  A lot of times when children act this way, the parent isn't going to do anything because they allow their children to act out.  This is signs of aggression and is battery.  Keep up with the police report and do something about it.  I'd be willing to bet if your son clobbered her kid, she would want to come over and "beat you up".  I've been there.

Answer 9

I think calling the police was probably an overreaction.

Children do silly things......that's their job. Other than make sure your son feels OK, a word to the other boys parent is probably all you should do. The other kid needs to be told that its not Ok to do that. But that is not your place. You raise your child and they raise theirs. If you don't like the way other children behave you can stop your child from seeing them. That may be a good idea for one or two individuals, but sheltering your child from the bad behaviours of others is not the best idea either. The world is a tough place and so is school. The sooner he learns that the better.

But yeah.....calling the police was a complete overreaction. What were they going to do? Charge the child?

Answer 10

Wow - what is wrong with the mother of this psychopath?? What happened here is not okay, I don't think I would have called the police but still! This is exactly why my house is the house where all the kids play - that way I can keep an eye on them and know what's going on.

Answer 11

You are not the bad guy. This was not play, whoever did that to your kids has serious problems. Restraining them should be considered kidnapping & threatening them with a weapon is horrible. The police & other parents in your neighborhood need to take this incident very seriously. I would consider reporting this to child services also, it sounds like the perpetrators home life needs to be checked out.