Just wondering..Where did you learn your mothering tech.? ?

Question

Was it from your mom, grandma, friends? Did you pick them up on your own? From books? Did it come naturally?

Cause I sit here and I read some other mother's answers, and some are really great and very informed, and others are like text book, lets copy and paste everything. Why don't most just tell others what they went through, or what they have learned.? Not saying that searching for info to someones question is wrong. It's just I think, if they wanted that type of answer they would have done the research themselves.

I just think alot of moms are relying on the "TEXT BOOK" info more then their intuitions and their own experiences.

So my question is...where did you learn to be a mom?

I got my parenting from my mom, my friends with kids, growing up helping my mom raise my nieces and nephews since I was 11. And just plain old common sense. And yes, I did do my research, and I read the books.

NO rude or nasty uncalled for answers as well. THANK YOU ♥

Answer 1

I got mine from my mum, families I babysat for and helping my with my young siblings I'm the second eldest of eight so there was lots of practise.

And just plain old good fashioned common sense  

Answer 2

I'm just winging it.=) LOL I agree with you, when I post a question I really want to know what you did, what your experiences are/were.  I don't have a  relationship with my mother, but my mother in law has been wonderful with suggestions/advice, she also watches my daughter when I work part time, so she has direct experience with my baby so I know its not just "well I think so and so" .  She is a blessing. I have a younger brother by 12 years so I did help raise him and being around my nieces and nephews.  

Answer 3

30 years ago when I was pregnant with my oldest, I asked my doctor then how would I know what to do as far as being a mama... He answered me by telling me that God gives us all the ability to know right from wrong & to have a mothering instinct. He said that as a mama I would do everything in my power to do right by my child. To trust my own instincts & to love them. I took what he said to heart. You will learn so much with your first child. There will be times when you just want a break & there will be times when you feel so blessed. I must say that being a mama to 3 daughters & a Nana to 3 grandsons & another grandchild on the way, has been the most rewarding life I could ever dream of. Each one of you, enjoy your babies.. They will only be babies for a little while.. One day they will grow up & you will see that they will raise their babies the same way you did them. Life is so special..  

Answer 4

I tend to go with my gut instinct.  If I second guess my instinct, then I call mom.  If I'm still unsure, I'll call my best friend who has two children.  

I try to trust my gut though.  :)

Answer 5

Long story short....I have no contact with my mother and aren't really close to rest of my family (aunts etc),I'm only 23 and the first of my friends to have a baby and have never grown up round babies either.This means I'm pretty much self taught!I read the books,websitea,YA and listen to my MIL (she managed to raise 3 perfectly healthy,respectful boys) and piece together with my instincts what I think is right and will work for my daughter.My daughter is 4 months now and is mummy crazy so I think I must be doing something right (hopefully!)

Answer 6

LOL i just asked a similar Q. I think i got my mothering from reading, my mother, common sense & MYSELF, i am a new mom but even new moms have motherly instinct!

Also, my baby is VERY good in letting me know what's wrong. that helps!

& of course the best parent has alwas helped me! Never leaves me, guides my way.. My Lord Jesus Christ!!



God Bless

Answer 7

I read many parenting books while pregnant and put together tiny pieces from each book that I felt would work for my family. That is how I raise my daughter. I rarely second guess myself when it comes to baby issues. After all, I know Alyssa much better than any doctor or book ever could.

Also, anything that my mother in law says I just do the complete opposite. That works pretty well.

Answer 8

I certainly hope I did not learn from my mom or sisters...God love them but they are not model parents by any stretch.  I am getting my parenting degree from the School of Hard Knocks...I am majoring in Trial and Error with a minor in Learning as I Go.  Granted I am a freshman (my daughter is 4 months old) and this is the hardest thing I have ever done.  I don't rely on books or others advice to help me.  I pray and I look to God to guide my way.  

Answer 9

I've always been pretty decent with babies, but the fact that my niece was born six months before my son was particularly helpful for learning how to cope day to day.  Mostly I follow my instincts and they are serving me pretty well so far!

Answer 10

For me a good mixture of research of books and internet and mostly intuition.  I didn't have much baby experience before having my son 7 months ago, but I had every confidence in myself and sometimes I think "Why am I not more worried" because some moms seems to doubt themselves so much.

Answer 11

I just love my baby and feed her when she is hungry and pick her up when she cries....I chose to breastfeed cause it is what nature intended....and alot of trial and error with my 1st baby.....LOL

Answer 12

I have gained my parenting knowledge from Early Childhood Education and Psychology classes, state required "STARS" training for working in a Child Care Center, 4 years of working in Child Care Centers with children ages 6 weeks to 4 years, many different parenting books ranging from AAP recommended reading and the Sears Parenting Library to Dr. James Dobson, and plain old gut instinct and prayer. I pick and choose what works for our family and what feels right. That is all any parent can do :).

Additional comment: I did not mean to offend by anyone. I do realize it seems I may be touting certain knowledge, but I am not. I am far from a perfect parent. You should have heard the phrase that came out of my two year olds mouth this morning ;). I try to be a good parent and do the best I can, like most parents.

Answer 13

I have 5 sisters and one brother and I have seen how my mom did it. I go with my gut feeling and with what I know. I have 4 nieces and one nephew. Before I had my first baby they were my babies so I give advice on what I know and by my experiences.