Just wondering of this true about Muslims?

Question

Is it true you guys are not allowed to date before you marry?

Answer 1

The tradition is through recommendation by the women of the man's family like the mother and sisters from friends and people they know or maybe through a good male friend who recommends his sister.

Then they set a day to meet, but with at least a male relative accompanying the woman.  Afterwards they can make a decision to marry or not.

Answer 2

I'm sure you are right. That's probably why they all have boyfriends.  

Answer 3

TRUE

Answer 4

Absolutely true.

Answer 5

Yes, that is correct.

The halal way is to marry and then date.

The couple can get to know each other through family gatherings, email, texts etc.

You don't need to go with someone to restaurants and cinemas to get to know them.

Answer 6

Nonsense. We are allowed to date at suitable hours and for the girl there should be somebody accompanying her.

Answer 7

Well, you can have a look at the person to whom you are going to marry. But dating is not allowed.

Edit: Both persons can have a conversation but there should be a Mehram i.e. caretaker with girl.

Answer 8

no we are not allowed to date...but some Muslims don't obey the rules

Answer 9

When talking to my interpreters in Iraq, they told me that in the cities dating was common, but the couple could not touch or anything and they made sure to emphasize that they could not have s*x.  In the rural areas it was pretty much taboo.

Answer 10

yes it is and i should know cuz im muslim :)

Answer 11

muslim men date boys  

Answer 12

I'm not a Muslim but I live in Indonesia, the biggest muslim country in the world and I know quite a lot about them.

It depends to whom you ask this question. For fundamentalist Moslem, you are not allowed to *walk* with a woman who is not your wife. To some degree, you are not even allowed to shake hand with a woman who is not your wife. That's what happen in a very traditional and strict Moslem countries such as Afghanistan, Iran and Iraq as far as I know.

In Indonesia, it's not that strict. Here, they date normally like the people from non-Moslem countries.

Answer 13

Yes, and neither girls.

Answer 14

Well yes but most of them date even it's not allowed they do it secretly specially women but men don't hide,I was dating my self in the past may Allah forgive my sins.

Answer 15

Hi, Yes you are right, dating is not allowed, infact no interaction with the opposit s*x in any way, even if its just platonic friends.

However, in this day and age it doesnt always work like that. I am a muslim, and i dated my boyfriend before marrying him. This may make me a bad muslim, but i do pray 5 times, i have married that man, and i read the quran.

Answer 16

Well a physically intimate interaction is completely forbidden, before marriage. Therefore dating in the sense of intimate physical encounter is an impossibility.

In my case, (as well as in the case of my brother), I went to the house of my wife along with the family, without my wife knowing, the purpose of the visit. Once my parents got my approval, they sent the proposal to the parents of my wife. And after the investigations, that were carried out by my inlaws, and after consultation with my wife, they got her approval. And that is how we got married.

And when we got married, it was like as if we knew each other already. It may be a rare case, but the bottom line is that we went along each other very well. Both I and my wife were flexible and adjusted according to one another. In fact we do enjoy each other's co. very much. We are blessed with each other and also with very loving and well behaved children.

Marriage, in my opinion, is still a matter of a gamble. No matter how much precautions you may take and how many calculations you do about your partner. It can still be a success as well as a failure.

Our system some how works. The very high success rate of marriages in Pakistan is a clear manifestation of that.

@Edit:

I was engaged before I got engaged with my wife. My first fiance talked to me on the telephone and soon decided that I was not compatible to her. So the engagement ended.

I and my wife remained engaged for about 7-8 months and did talk to each other on telephone. Though we did not have much in common, yet compatibility was not an issue. Therefore we got married and by grace of Almighty we are a happily married couple.

Answer 17

Yes, that's true.  No dating before marriage.

However, if after meeting a potential spouse, you feel that they would make a good husband/wife, then a marriage contract is done.  In many cases, the couple chooses to continue living apart and 'date' and get to know each other better without consummating the marriage.  The wedding party or big announcement is scheduled for a few months later.  If before the wedding party, they decide it won't work out, then they will simply break the marriage contract/get divorced, but both will remain virgins (ofc if that was the case to begin with, and it should be), and will easily be able to find another spouse without any shame.  

I think this is done in many cultures, especially arab and pakistani cultures.  Doing it this way preserves the woman's integrity and chastity if things don't seem to work out.  If she gets married, consummates the marriage, then shortly after gets divorced, it's very hard for her to find another husband.

Answer 18

Yes, it is true for Muslims & for people in most parts of Asia too like Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs etc. particularly in village life. Proposals for marriage come through neighbours, relatives & friends & all details of the boys & girls are studied carefully to find out suitability of matches & when everything is satisfactory for both sides, then only at the end before finalisation, a meeting of the boy & the girl to be married are allowed to see each other in presence of relatives at one place. If both like, then only the alliance ifs finalised & engagement is done. In Islam, before marriage, only like this they see each other but dating is not allowed. In non - Muslim Asians too this method is mostly followed but in urban society, only for last 25 years or so, dating started in big cities & it is a taboo in small cities.  

Answer 19

well u talk when the guy come to see u.

Answer 20

no mixing of s*x is not that not even seeing.

muslims or not the life of people in a particular place almost same.

In indian villages all are arranged marriages, even love marriages arranged.

But girls and boys know from schools colleges or other public places, talks each other and the sending proposals thru some contacts and ending in marriage.

in towns cities non muslims adopting more to a western approach.

For knowing each other no need of intercourse.

Answer 21

Yes, very True. before Nikah=>engagement nothing is allowed between boy and girl!!!

Answer 22

you can get to now the peson

even go out with that person

but you can touch or sleep together

Answer 23

Why is it has to be wrong? As long as you know how to control yourself, it shud be fine... what matters is the heart.. your intentions, your thinking, your feelings that plays the part... He knows your good intentions, why would He gave you the wrong credits for that? Remember your "future to be" is in his hand, there is a reason for your meets... Why put a burden in life when you're free to live and decide what's good and wrong?

The Law is given to avoid people with uncontrolable desires which may lead to the wrong way...

Answer 24

Well it is very much true but trust me when i say every girl nowadays gets to know the boy before the marriage. and it is not as silly as it sounds because they communicate via cell phones and emails and sometimes even see each other but there is just no physical touching until the marriage