KIDS CLOSER to mom?

Question

how do you make your kids closer. Its hard to do things with my son because he is a quitter. I try to be patient understanding but my mother raised me not to be a quitter . I see myself when he is doing that. I dont feel that is a good quality. I just want to be closer to him. I see that he looks for me for the "OK" all the time. I praise him a lot when he does good. I know I am good mom. I just want him to stop quitting. I want him to keep on tricking. Most importantly we are close but i want to be closer

Answer 1

try asking your son what sports he likes for example if he said soccer hve him try out for the team then help him practice and take him to some games. or try asking him his favorite song  and take him to a concert. then when he wants to quit don't let him. i know it sounds strict but your not going to be a good mom by spoiling your child. bieng a little strict is okay. If nothing works take him on a drive and talk. just be a nice mom but still a LITTLE strict

Answer 2

ouch.....he's not a quitter, he's insecure, overwhelmed, he's actually very typical...he wants to do things he knows he will do well, like the rest of us.  He lacks self-confidence, it's your job to build his confidence so he will be more apt to keep trying something even if he's not doing too well.....

are you results oriented?  does he only get praise if he does things right?  

I'm only talking from experience here....you want to be closer, quit being so worried about him being a quitter and show some interests in his interests.  Ask him questions about things he shows interest in, ask him how he feels about certain things, LISTEN TO HIM.  

You don't see yourself in him....you see your Mother and you all over again and here is your chance to do what your mother never did for you, so don't s***w this time up with your son!!!!!

Just my not-so-humble opinion, sorry if it was harsh, but I've been dealing with some similar things with my son, as both my hubby and I are over-achievers and results oriented and apparently have managed to raise a son who would rather quit at things instead of 'try' even if the task is difficult, even if the task requires lots of effort, even if the task may not be done right the first time! LOL.....I am now trying to fix what I have helped create.

Answer 3

The best things we can do for our kids is to lead by example which it sounds like you are. And love them for who they are not who we want them to be. Of course you don't want him to be a quitter but he should not have to be perfect at everything either.

And how old is your son  that would help out with answering the how to be closer part.

Answer 4

Your a lucky parent. My mom doesnt have the time or hardly wants to be with me.

Answer 5

Sounds like your doing just fine as a mom, just keep sticking with him and try to encourage him not to quit.  Eventually I think he will find his niche and will stick with something.  I went thru it with my son, ya know different sports, different clubs, etc.  He finally got into Junior High and found his passion in football (which he used to loathe), he is going into his 3rd year and he is only getting stronger.  I show my support by being at the practices and most the games...I take photos for his school and his myspace acct.  So just be patient and it will come!

Answer 6

As far as your quitting prob, try a rewards system.