Keep the ring or get a new one?

Question

Friends of mine were two weeks away from getting married... they ended up having to cancel their wedding, they thought they were done forever. Well a year or so later, they mended their differences and have decided recently that they would again like to get married... however they can't decide if they should sell the old ring and start over again or if it's ok to use the old engagement ring. What do you think? Intelligent answers please!

Answer 1

I would say keep the old one..If the ring came from another couple that absolutely didn't make it,then i would say get a new one. No need to jinks yourself. But if they are the first to own it and are back together,then keep it..

Answer 2

The old ring is fine but if they can take it back to where they got it and get their money back or sell it and not lose too much, then get a new ring.

It will be nice new ring for thier new and improved relatioship.

If they are going to lose too much money then just keep it.

Answer 3

new start - new ring

sell that thing and get a new one!  

Answer 4

If they still like the old ring, it's silly not to use it again!  I am, at this very moment, wearing the same engagement ring my fiance purchased for me back in 2003, when we got engaged for the first time.  Well, we were young and dumb and needed to grow up a bit so we broke off the engagement but stayed together and just slowed thigns down.  Five years later, just as I was doubting that he'd ever propose again, he did, and this time it's gonna stick!!!  He proposed with the old ring but made it clear that if I wanted a new one, he'd go with me and buy one, but this ring has so much sentimental value- besides, I was the one who picked it out in the first place, so I think it's gorgeous.  Why, in this economy, should a person have to buy a whole new engagement ring just because the old one resulted in a broken engagement to the same person?

If they want to, though, an option would be for him to purchase an "add-on" setting as a symbol of their fresh start.  It would be easy for a jeweler to put the ring in a new setting with more diamonds or embellishments, so it will still be the same ring but look different- like version 2.0.

Answer 5

I think they should "upgrade" - take the ring back to the orignial jeweler and trade it in on a new one. They should get at least 75% of the original cost back toward the new ring.

Answer 6

New ring - Definitely!

Sell the old one and use the $ towards a new one.  

Answer 7

I think it would be most special to use the original ring. It will remind them, when they are married, that you work through tough times, not quit and find something 'new'.

Answer 8

Yea, I'd say get a new ring to have a new beginning!

Answer 9

New ring!

Answer 10

Some jewelry stored have programs where you can bring an item in and use it for credit towards something else. If this is the case with this ring, I would say it would be a great option! Then again, considering that they were so close to getting married before and decided against it, maybe they should keep the ring until they get married to make sure they know that's what they truly want.  

Answer 11

I would keep the old ring and reuse it.  It's not like the ring itself is cursed.  The engagement ring I own used to belong to a couple who were engaged and broke up before the wedding.  My fiance was able to save a lot of money by buying the ring from a friend who already had one, and the history of the ring is a good reminder that you have to keep working on your problems, and that it's not the diamond that matters.  I think in a way it makes it even more meaningful.

Answer 12

Can they afford a new ring? I would say if they can, and the old one reminds them of bad times, get a new one. However, when they first got engaged, they will have been happy. So it might be alright to stick with the old and spend the money on the wedding or a house etc.

I would ask them, does it remind them of the bad times and the arguments etc? If it does, start afresh with a new ring, and try to put that totally behind them.

Answer 13

A new ring for a new beginning.

They can always sell the ring and use the money to help with the new one.  Or they can take it to the jewelry store to see if they can use it to trade up.

Answer 14

I personally would use the old ring. To me, it's not about the ring, it's about the relationship.

Maybe if I had more money than I knew what to do with, I'd go with the new ring. But most people don't have unlimited resources.

Answer 15

Keep the first ring.

Answer 16

If they are superstitious they might consider it unlucky to use the old ring.

I would get a new one if I could afford it, to signify a fresh start and leaving the past behind - turning over a new leaf, starting a new future.