Keeping work life seperate from personal life.?

Question

How do you all deal with your work and personal life? At work I work with only 3 other girls who have become progressingly close. They have made it obvious that they are not close to me. I continue to ignore it but deep inside it hurts. I have grown to say that my work life is seperate from my personal life. I am not there to make friends. Since I have embrased that concept I am feeling better. What do you all think?

Answer 1

Act nice to them, there is at least a 30% chance they will be nice back and become friends with you.

Answer 2

I think that you are perfectly right. Never wear your feelings on your sleeves. Of course you still need to maintain a good, and workable relationship with the other 3 girls... but informal relationships are very difficult to force on.

You are absolutely right about separating personal life with work life. Unfortunately, I learned that very late in my career, and felt emotionally burned out in the end. I was esaily hurt, took everything personally, and became an emotional wreck. I could have gone very much further in my career, but this was my stumbling block.

Remember, be pleasant, but keep it impersonal.... at least until you know the other 3 girls better... and even so.. remember, they are NOT your friends.

Answer 3

You are exactly right, you are not there to make friends and its probably better that you aren't friends with them that way you can focus more on work, the only down side to that is if your boss goes around and asks other co workers about your work performance they may not say such nice things about you since they don't know you personally. So don't be anti social there is no harm in saying hi, or striking up causal conversation, but don't take it personal if nobody invites you out for drinks after work, just do your job to the best of your ability that should be your first priority, your work should speak for itself.

Answer 4

You answered your own question--you work to make money, not friends.  The worst place in the world to make friends is at work because when things go sour and if the "friend" is an *** kiss for the boss and wants you fired because the "friend" is mad at you--well need I say more?  Don't let that hurt your feelings, they are no one to you and their opinions of you does not matter whatsoever.

Your friends are people you've made along the way in life and generally you work for different companies.  Don't feel isolated, keep the "team" idea because they are your work acquaintances and are just that.  Never share your personal life with anyone at work, because if its "juicy" EVERYONE you work with WILL KNOW ABOUT IT!  Save yourself anymore agony and aggravation and treat them as your team members, the people you work with are NOT your friends.  

Be friendly with people you work with, reserve your friendships for your real friends outside of work, they are the one's you can count on.

Answer 5

If you don't click with the people theres no reason to force it. Plus, when they get in a tift in thier personal life which they will they will drag it to the office. I would just continue to not let it bother you. Stay nice( say hey, hows ur weekend) and they will see that it doesn't bother U, make friends with some male co-workers too. Women at the job site can be very competitve they may feel endangered by you. Make friends outside of work by stopping in a local eatery or bar and chat with other people there by themselves or even groups. You may find someone to meet u for lunch and the girls will see that u don't need them :) Good luck!

Answer 6

It is true. I am very close to my co-workers-but on a professional level. I would never hang out with them after work. You can keep these separate and still have a good working relationship.  These girls may seem really close but will most likely become enemies or if one quits working therre-the others will forget about her-It seems like a popularity contest-like high school!

Answer 7

its actually good for u, so yes, feel proud that your personal and professional life are separate.