Kid-like dad vs. responsible mom?

Question

I am gettting totally frustrated & starting to feel depressed.

My ex is like a big kid...he has never been able to hold a job...he lives in a low-income tiny apartment in a bad neighborhood, he's on unemployment & sits at home all day playing computer & Xbox games, ect... he doesn't clean his house (at all) & the kids LOVE going there because there is such a lack of responsibility & nearly no discipline, and he lets them eat & drink an unlimited amount of junk.

I, on the other hand, limit my kids tv/game time, make them do chores on regular basis, and would rather have them outside swimming or playing baseball & feed them 'real' food like roast beef or grilled chicken with potatoes. I am kinda strict, but I want my kids to learn responsibility at an early age.

They are starting to favor their dad (for obvious reasons, it's like a carnival ) but it's really starting to hurt my feelings because it seems they would prefer to be with their dad all the time. They are 6 & 4 years old.

Answer 1

stop tryna compete with him. its not even worth it, with a father like him, they need all the structure they can get. the last thing they need "more fun" so to speak. im sure it hurts. when my daughter was 3 she told me that she wanted to live with her grandmother (obviously her granny spoiled her). yeah it hurt, but shes a lil kid, they dont know whats best for them, but you do. and you need to do best by your kids

Answer 2

Sure they favour their dad right now it's party time at his place.  However, stay strong mom your routine and rules are a good and necessary thing.  There will come a time when your kids will need you more as you are the more stable parent.  They will respect you for your methods when they are older.  

Best of luck