Kid says my son called name but my son said he didnt. What do I do?

Question

on the bus the kid got off and was like ur son called me a crybaby! and my son gets off about 2 kids back and said no I didnt! and i was like well he said he didnt and he says yeas he did. so i just said well he wont call u anything else. while my son is in the back saying no i didnt i didnt say that to him he thought i said that. so we're almost home and the kid's older bro is like ur son called my bro a crybaby and he called us fools yesterday he's always talkin smack! my son denies all this. i dont know what to do. i feel bad for not believing my son b/c sometimes he does lie (he's 5) but he's never had problems with other kids and normally its the other waqy around. last year a kid had a toy and he said it was his but the other kid says it was his.in the end the other kid kept it b/c i didnt know what to do or who to believe. what to do in these situations? this is my first kid in school so im exta worried about everything! any suggestions,tips,stories will help! thx in advance i always get good answers from other parents! smile!!!!

Answer 1

now see its happened to me alot, sometimes a kid does do something and denys it to there parents when they get told on, sometimes they don't say anything and other kid lies, happenes to me all the time, my mom would tell those kids that she would make sure it never happened again, and then she'd talk to me, she'd say that I don't know who to believe but overall in the near future or even now you shouldn't be calling other people names and if you do it now or in the future you are gonna be grounded because now im telling you not to do it. hope this helps some.

Answer 2

I would give my kid a spanking for calling another kid names.  That's not put up with.   But get your son's side of the story too.  It's possible the other child is fibbing.  All kids lie, but usually you can tell if they are genuine.

Answer 3

I would explain to your son tht whether he did it or not, name calling is unacceptable behavior so that you are sure (in case he did do it) that it won't happen again.   Tell him that name calling is hurtful, and ask how he would feel if they were calling him names.  If he still says he didn't do it, say I'm telling you this so that you don't do it in the future.

Answer 4

ignore it...  

Answer 5

"so we're almost home and the kid's older bro is like ur son called my bro a crybaby and he called us fools yesterday he's always talkin smack!"

I'd opt to believe my own child over two brothers who are sure to back each other up. An older boy accusing a five year old child of name calling? well he should realize that this is only a very small child. If you know that your son does not talk this way, then believe him.