Kids are mean to my son?

Question

My son is in kindergarten and I noticed that they seem to be mean to him. he is trying to play ball with the other boys and they are constantly telling him he cannot play and yelling at him when he tries to join in. I have tried to speak to the teachers and even to the kids about this and stop it from happening but nothing changes. I think he does not realize that people are being mean to him as he is still young. I just don't know how to teach my son to be stronger and understand right from wrong.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can say to empower my son?

Answer 1

Ok if I was a mother of one of the mean kids and you told me about it I would fix my sons behavior right away, telling him to stick up for that boy and to be nice to him.  If he did not stop i would ground him and take away priveleges.  If i was you and the mother of your son I would tell my kid to be tough and not let the other people tell him what to do.  I would have him tell the teacher.  You said you did this already and nothing changed?  The teacher didnt do anything about it.  i would call up and be relentless on them.  When I see this stuff happen at the playground or at the pool I wait to see what happens and then i step in.  I dont care if the other kids' parents are there or not, i want kids to love one another and not treat each other bad so I will say something.  Try putting him in a karate class, swimming lessons, or a baseball team.  Vacation Bible school is coming up next week put him in that there should be nice kids there also to play with.

Answer 2

You can stop hovering over him and let him learn how to function in a community. If the other kids are mean to him and he doesn't notice then it's because he wants to fit in with those kids and he has to learn what it takes to fit in with them. Buying them with chocolates is not a good idea because then they will learn that they can use him for things and he will not learn how to make true friends. You need to teach him what to look for in a friend and how to find the qualities that he desires. You also need to teach him how to handle himself in situations where the kids are being mean and it bothers him, or they are teasing him and it bothers him. You cannot control anyone else. You cannot make anyone treat your child differently. You can only teach your son how to behave properly, what the rules are, and your belief system. Eventually he's going to decide for himself what he wants and how he's going to act and then all of the teaching comes into play as he uses the values and rules that you taught him to make decisions. If you try to control the people around him that interact with him you become the annoying mom that hovers and no one wants that kid around because you don't go away. Teaching him these things is not difficult at all. In fact, every time you talk to him you are teaching him your values and the way that you live teaches him your values. You just have to answer his questions honestly even if you don't know the answer, and teach him what to do when. He will learn the rest on his own. Of course you have to monitor how he is doing, and if he isn't doing well in an environment or you feel it's not the right environment for him, change it. Change schools, homeschool, whatever you think will best promote the values and beliefs that you hold. At the end of the day you're trying to get him a great education, not friends. He can make his own friends without your help, just your guidance. Good Luck

Answer 3

Kids can be so cruel. I'm only 21, no kids, so I really don't know what to tell you. I hope it gets better. Just tell him to keep his head up and be as nice as he can be, it'll make him stronger in the long run. Good luck. :)

Answer 4

Leave it alone.  Stop trying to force other children to play with your son you are only making matters worse for him.  Let him and the other children work things out on their own.

Answer 5

Give him some good comebacks.  Kids will always tease but you have to teach him to be strong

Answer 6

mt daug is in kinderg, i tell her that she can choose her friends. if somebody is mean tell them that she doesnt want to play with them, walk away and find somebody nice to play with.

Answer 7

now that school is over (or just about) maybe dow aht you can to teach him the "treat other how you want to be treated" that when others wont let you be involved for no good reason, that it is not fair.  To ask "why" when people say no so he has a better understanding of things arround him (may get a bit annoying but its a way for him to learn)

Answer 8

Start teaching your son to defend himself now. Tell him, when kids tell you this [insert comment], you need to say this [insert response]. Also, understand that teasing is just a part of school life for children. Just keep teaching him not to let anyone just walk all over him. It won't make much sense to him now, but later on, it will. If he doesn't have a father, try to find a male mentor for him.

Answer 9

You 're a very caring mother, your child is very lucky. I remember when I was small my mom didn't even know these things. It happens & what u can do is give your child some chocolates or something that he can share with the other kids & become friends with them. As he/she grows he/she will learn, u dont need to worry.

Answer 10

First off, how have you noticed this happening? Does he tell you? Do you work at his school? Or do you sit there at recess and watch him?

Kids are kids and do not always want to play with everyone on the playground.

My daughter's going into second grade. There's been days that some of her closest friends just don't feel like playing with her and then they're soon back to being best friends again. It's no big deal. If one of her friends says she can't play with them, she'll either go do her own thing or go play with some one else. That's pretty much what your son needs to do. But she's also been the one telling other kids that they can't play with her~~usually because they try to cause trouble or make new rules to the game and are no fun to play with.

Since you are talking to other kids and the teachers about this, trust me, your son KNOWS people are being mean to him because you're making such a huge fuss over it! You need to give him room and the chance to work this out on his own. Maybe the kids don't want to play with him because they're afraid of who you're going to talk to next.

Answer 11

have you been to the principal of this school? you need to take action now!!!this boy does realise what is happening as my child gets the same sort of thing at school.sadly no one tells us parents that there are  high risk children at the very same schools that our children go to.these are the children that have had some type of trauma in their lives eg sexual abuse,physical abuse and so on.it iis up to you as the parent to provide the best place for your child/ren.i myself am hugely protective over mine and children that do not have the skills to protect themselves,and i really mean it i stick up for everyones children even if i dont know them.what you need to do is decide if you want to keep your son at this school.you could always ask him how his day went.make an appointment with the principal,if nothing happens go to the education board in your state and start home schooling him.you can get all the education stuff from the education board and just be his teacher and his friend.you will need to socialize him so a daycare or a playgroup meeting once or twice aweek would be great.i would have done the home schooling but my fellow is against it.you as a parent have the right to take the necessary actions to help you child/ren in his life to keep him safe.but you are not allowed to do anything illegal like assault another child(smack them or other),you are not supposed to verbally yell at them you should speak to thier parents and see if anything is or has happened out of their character,you should insist things are happening to his teacher/s andd the priciple.but dont over react as children have to find their place in the pecking order it is nature.they are at the age where they need to learn to ask to join in to a game.please take care and think positively.ask your son what he is thinking whether he is having fun or not.ok.

Answer 12

there are diffrent camps that yo could look up and try. they should target how to empower him.