I'm a happy person who is very proud to be childfree! I've known for most of my life that I never wish to have children, despite what anyone else thinks. I have my reasons for not wanting children and I think you will all agree that I should not be made to feel I must explain myself. (^_^)
The thing is, I'm a very sensitive person and I absolutely cannot stand it whenever I tell someone I don't want kids, they just laugh and tell me I'll change my mind someday. It hurts and angers me so much because I feel like everyone (even strangers) think they know me better than myself. My only wish is to be left alone to live my life the way I want to. Whenever somebody brings up a baby/child subject when speaking to me, I become frightened and feel very uncomfortable because I know where it's going to lead. I know for a fact that there is no shame in being childfree, in fact, I'm extremely proud to be childfree and do not wish to change. I think being childfree is a very brave, responsible and sensible thing to do, but that's only my opinion.
However, I've learned from experience that there's no point in telling anyone I don't want kids because they never believe me, no matter what I say. All they ever do is laugh and tell me I'll change my mind or, on one occasion, asked me if I was a L*****n. :o( Therefore, I have made the decision that it's best to avoid those kinds of discussion or situations.
Here is my question to you all. If I'm ever talking to a person or a group of people (thankfully, a group discussion is rare) and someone (certainly never me) brings up the subject of kids, if someone asks me if I have or want kids, what do I do? What I mean is, I do not wish to get into the subject because it really hurts and angers me when people just laugh and tell me I'll change my mind, that I'm werid, etc. If I'm asked, how do I respond? What should I say? I just want to avoid those kinds of discussions.
Also, if I do say I don't have or want kids, how do I respond if they either laugh or say I'll change my mind? Isn't there ANY answer I can give to those kind of people that they will understand and believe?
Thank you for any help you can offer me. I'm very grateful. (^_^)/""
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