Kind of a long read: family problem?

Question

so my dad was diagnosed with thyroid cancer about 5 years ago, maybe 6. as you may know, its not a terrible cancer, so he's doing fine. along the way, we had economical problems, and his sister came into town. (almost all his family lives in iran, so he hasnt seen them for maybe 20 years, but he kept touch alot through computer) his sister is a TERRIBLE person. she flies all around the world, doing her own thing, but comes to my dad begging us for money so that she could go to college. my mom told him not to give her any money, because we need it and it doesnt even seem like shed use it and she obviously has her own money. the sister got really mad and started getting angry at our family and at my dad. now that sister gossiped her way to all of my dads family and none of them want to even really talk or visit my dad after this. (no more emails, etc)

my dads feeling depressed, and angry at my mom. i think this could also be the thyroid kicking in, and hes just angry and sad all the time.

he also feels really lonely.

he never talks to any of us and is angry when we try talking to him

we cant even cheer him up with family, cos alot of them are mad at us.

AND he refuses to go anywhere (to see them)

what do we doo?!?!

Answer 1

First of all, his sister needs to remember he has cancer. It might not be a super deadly one, but hes still sick! Then she just decides to come in and demand money? Yes, I said demand because when she got the answer no, she started making trouble. If she wants money so bad she needs to ask other people, get a loan, and/or get a JOB. She needs to know that she can't just start messing up everything just because she doesn't know how to save up her OWN money. And not only is she mad at him, she put some of the family against him. that is not right!!!! As for your dad, try to do things that make him happy. Maybe he feels guilty and thinks that all this is his fault. Even if he tries not to, you should get him to go somewhere. It may not be to family, but a vacation might make him feel better. And 3rd you should talk to the family about how your dad's sister is the bad one.