Kindergarten BLUES?

Question

my little boy is having problems trying to find a friend in school. he kept his attention on this one little boy, but the little boy is just ugly to him, he pushes him and tells him he not cool enough to be his friend and then that little twerp gets all the other little kids in on the mess. It hurts my little boys feelings and i have tried to get him to focus on mybe another little kid to play with.

how else should i deal with this and explain to him to go in another direction and find nice friends like him.??

Answer 1

My heart really goes out to you and your son since I know how tough that first year is.

At this age, they go through that phase of only keeping and wanting one best friend. Just a natural phase kids this age do.

I agree that you ought to persuade your son to make a different friend in class. Have a quick word with the teacher and ask if your son plays with anyone in particular. If you've had a chance to volunteer in class, you might spot a child who is well mannered and kind - someone you'd like your son to be friends with.

Then have a word with that child's parents and find out if you can arrange play dates at your house. In time, your son will gain a new friend. We're sailing through the second half of the school year, so gaining a true friend now will help him ease into first grade. Use the summer to help build more friendships with other kids in his neighborhood and school.

Good luck!

Answer 2

invite some other kids over to your house after school.  as your son gets to know them better, he will move on from the "mean kid."  just keep in mind that kids change fast at that age, so the obnoxious twerp may be going through a stage and be a perfectly good kid a couple months from now.

you can also alert the teacher to keep an eye out to make sure that bullying doesn't get out of hand, and ask her to pair your son with other kids where possible.

Answer 3

first i would set up a time to talk to the teacher even if you can only do it over the phone. ask if there are other kids he seems to want to play with. If so the teacher would be able to encourage these friendships while keepingyour son and the (less than friendly) other child away. I would continue to do exactly what you are with your son and not let him know that you have discussed it with his teacher. there will always be kids like this and unfortunatly he does need to learn to handle it but at this young of an age i fully believe stepping in a little cant hurt. I have an older child who was having similar problems and the teacher started suggesting when they did things in groups that he work with this other boy and after just a few weeks he no longer cared what the first boy said and always hung out with the new friend.

Answer 4

First off I would talk to his teacher about this little bully. S/he needs to be aware of this type of behavior. Then I would definately try and find a few kids that are his age in your neighborhood and a few in his class that are nice and invite them to a party.  A great idea is an un-birthday party, everyone brings a small gift $10 or less (including your son), you get a cake that says happy unbirthday, put all the gifts in a box let each child draw out one present (except their own), they all blow out the candles on the cake, and play regular party games. It's a silly fun reason to get toghether and will allow all the kids to get to know each other. Have the parents hang around too so that you can get to know them.