Kindergarten discipline?

Question

My son has been coming home daily with a Bad note from the teacher. its small stuff like he likes to make transformer noises when she is trying to teach, he throws his lunch away, he doesnt listen when told what to do, he doesnt want to finish his work at school.. what is the best way to discipline without spanking??? and does this mean he will be a problem student later on in life?

Answer 1

Maybe attending class with him for a little while wouldn't be a bad idea.  And as far as him being a problem student later in life, he most likely won't be if you tackle the problem now.  Investment now will be better then trying to fix the problem when he is a teen.  Just keep at it, it will eventually pay off.

Answer 2

okay the best way to stop bad behaviour in young children is positive reinforcement

if he is throwing his lunch away its probably because he doent like the food, so ask him what he would like for lunch and then when he eats it reinforce the behaviour by some kind of reward or praise

at home when he listens to you reinforce the behaviour by telling him he is a good boy ad give him some kind of reward

also ask the teacher to do this at kindy, by acknowledging when hes done something right

combine this positive reinforcement with losing privliges when he is being naughty

most people punish bad behaviour but do not reinforce good behaviour this is why bad behaviour is repeated, children are not sure of what is expected of them

Answer 3

Taking away priveledges is usually the best way with young ones.  Whatever you use as discpline for other things, such as talking back or hitting you, can be used.  Your son needs to understand respect for authority, and that he should treat his teacher how he should treat you.  It isn't neccesarrily an indicator for later behavior, if you nip it in the bud now and give him an appreciation of the importance of education.  If you see the same behaviors at home, then stop when it happens and explain to him that it is distracting behavior.  Also remember to celebrate when he does well, hopefully she also reports when he has a good day...maybe ask her to send home good notes as well so you can reward him with stickers and push the positive reinforcement.

Answer 4

Time outs...

My son likes Transformers...how many Transformers does your son have?  Can you use the toys as currency?  For example, when he does not behave he loses his Transformers.

Answer 5

it means that he is young. This is what they do. Is he on the younger side? Maybe look at pulling him out and waiting another year

Answer 6

You should request a conference with the teacher and I am sure together the both of you will come up with a plan for your son.

Answer 7

You could tell him that if he comes home with a no bad note that he can have a treat or extra 30 minutes of TV or computer.

You can go the positive route which is above or the negative route.

Take something away every time he comes home with a bad note.

Answer 8

It might mean that he's just not ready for school yet. See if taking away a privilege helps get him on the right path. It doesn't mean that he'll be a problem student later on...IF you get him headed in the right direction now. Talk to the teacher and work out a plan that you can both live with. It might mean letting him do kindergarten again (our school has a transition grade between kindergarten and first which I think is a great idea...some kids are just not as ready as others). Being disruptive, not listening and not finishing work might mean that he's just not ready for the next step. All kids mature at different levels, he'll eventually find his pace. You may want to reduce the sugar in his diet. One of my four kids is very sugar sensitive and totally hyper if he has sugar. If he doesn't have as much sugar he's fine. It might be something that he's just not able to control yet. Good luck :)