Kindergartner made a gun w/Lego's and said "Die Skylar Die" I kept Sky home today. ongoing problem.

Question

This child is always mean to Sky and has been all year. After seeing how the child was not upset about having to go to the principal, I was very concerned if the kid had guns in his home. He does, but they are locked up. I am still worried. I did not send Sky to school today. What should I do about tommorrow? Also, he said this when on the other side of the classroom, so Sky did nothing to provoke it and even the teacher said it was just that child. Also, Sky is on the Autism spectrum, cries easily, so is an easy target for bullies. Any advice would be greatly appriciated. Thank you.

Answer 1

That isn't very irregular. Lots of little kids say they are going to kill each other. It's a little boy thing. Your kid is an easy mark, sorry to say. Kids pick on each other non-stop all the time. I'd even wager it's a developmental thing. I don't know any child who didn't tease/torment others when they were little. It sucks that he is on the autism spectrum, but unless you want him in special classes it's the way of the world. You can try another classroom perhaps, but you would probably be better served by teaching your son to stand up for himself and roughhouse a bit with the other little boys.

"Die Skylar Die"

"I have a shield and you can't kill me"

"Well this is a super mega gun that goes through shields"

"No it's not because only cool people get those and you're LAME!"

ect...

Answer 2

home schooling.

i am

Answer 3

It isn't right that you should have to keep your kid home from school because of a bully. I would demand the school disciplines this bully kid properly and stops letting him get away with threatening your child in school. It should be this other kid that has to stay home from school if his behavior continues. He should be suspended. Make this clear to the teacher and principle at your child's school. I honestly doubt you need to worry about a kindergartener bringing a real gun to school though. It’s normal for little boys to play with toy guns and pretend kill each other.

Answer 4

I think you'd be surprised how often kids say stuff like that. I'm NOT saying it's ok at all but as a preschool teacher I hear that kind of stuff more than you'd think. It's usually from kids who have older siblings or who watch violent tv, etc. So the gun thing, while obviously scary-sounding, doesn't worry me as much as the fact that this kid has been mean to Skylar all year. Why is the school allowing this to continue? I would ask for a conference with the principal and the teacher so you can discuss it. If this child is consistently mean to yours then obviously whatever the school is doing isn't working. You deserve to not be afraid of sending your child to school and he deserves to feel safe while he's there! Good luck =)

Answer 5

I think thth kid is just a simple bullie you could go to the school pricipal and they most likely will suspend thth kid for threatening your son..but u can't worry about it too much i'm am 99.99% sure thth other kid will not bring a gun to skool. and if the kid doesn't stop messing with skyler talk to his parents or even file a police report you could tell the you kid has been being threatened and harassed.. it will be fine though.. don't worry

good luck :)

Answer 6

Ask the principle for a meeting between you and the parent(s) of the problem child.  That parent may not be aware of how nasty their kid is and may need to make some parenting adjustments.

Answer 7

I would suggest you switch classrooms.  Please do be angered by the rest of my comments, but I really think that in some instances (and I am not saying yours in particular) parents over react to what other children do -- then the parents get into it and it becomes totally blown out of proportion and the next days the kids are best buddies and there is all this commotion between the adults.  I realize your child is on the spectrum of Autism, and that you wish for him/her not to be harrassed or picked on, but unfortunately it is a way of life -- it was a way of life 57 years ago when I was in school.  Did I like get picked on -- heck no, but it made me stronger and made me want to succeed.  If my Mom and Dad had picked a fight with everyone  over my little battles, I would never have learned to stand up for myself.  You need to encourage your child to do the best he/she can and ignore those children who are cruel and unkind.  Some kids are just naturally out of control, and yes it is our duty to monitor them, but I think at Kindergarden age that is taking it a bit to far.  You did all the right things by addressing it with the teacher and the principal -- now let them do their jobs.

Answer 8

Talk to the school counselor and/or principle if the teacher is no help.  You can also request a parent teacher conference that involves that childs parents also.

I can't relate to the bullied child but my 5 yr old is a tough brat.  Some things he does he is provoked and others to be mean and even times where he just gets carried away playing....mess with his brothers though and he will fight for them.  We intervene and handle it when he is wrong, but at the same time we encourage him to protect himself and his brothers (he is my middle son).  

Parents are aware that their kids are like this, either they see it or hear about it from friends, neighbors, family or the school.    Schools are no longer allowed to discipline and the kids know this from the beginning so all they can do is have the parents handle it and sometimes that is not enough.  

Your best bet is to get involved with the school, make them realize you are not going to put up with your child being treated this way and if need be you want a conference with the other parents there also so you know they are aware.

If it continues at that point to happen, you pay need to get the police involved.  It is sad to say with little ones concerned, but a child threating an child with a lego gun could turn to be a serious issue later in life.  We just had 8 and 10 yr olds bring items to school in GA to hurt a teach.  You never know what kids are capable of getting thier hands on.  As a wife to a police officer, we have guns in our home and having them just locked up is not enough.  They need to be on safety and bullets need to be kept elsewhere and the kids need to be with the parent or hidden where kids do not know at all times.

If they were playing say cops and robbers and he said die robber die, I wouldn't be too concerned, but slightly upset for that age group to do. The name is what gets me.

Don;t keep him from school, he needs his education and you don;t want kids thinking he is scared of them.  Be proactive and take control of it first thing in the morning when the school opens.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Buy Skylar some Mega Blocks!!!

I find this whole scenario quite disturbing....what is that kid seeing or watching at home?

Answer 10

Yeah,

You are his mother!!!!you go back in to that school and demand that kid to get some help!!!!!

Don't let teachers just sit there and do nothing about it!!!

You kid can't keep missing school because of another kid,so have a meeting with the teachers and if they don't do anything about it go to the school board and don't be shy about!!!!you send your kid to school for them to teach and protect and make their lives better not for that bull s****.

I would be kicking down doors and asking questions on who in h**l lets their kid act like tha and what is the school going to do about it!!!!!

and the teacher did nothing? the teacher? girl......

you need to grow some balls and get in there and protect your kid because your kid has the right to go to school with nothing but a dame smile on his face likeevery other kid!!!

HE** NO!!!!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE SCHOOLS THESE DAYS?WHERE ARE THESE PARENTS?

SOMETHING WRONG WITH THAT KID!!

I would be busting down doors because it's my right as a parent to know what in the %^%^%% is going on!!!!

this is your kid....don't let them just let it roll off their backs and go as high as you can go till someone in the school moves their a%%%% and takes care of that problem before it's to dame late!!!

Answer 11

My oldest son has always been bullied in school. The teachers, principals, never did anything about it.Granted my boys are older than your child and so are their bullies, but I went right up to the bullies and told them if I ever heard they were bullying my son, I'd take care of it personally. Yeah, the kid ran to the principal, but I told the principal if she had been doing her job to begin with and dealing with it, I wouldn't have to take matters into my own hands.

I'll smack any little punk who bullies my kids. It's not like their parents or the principal will do anything about it so someone has to.

Answer 12

Have a nice chat with that kid's parents and tell them what is going on. If they brush you off and he continues, you might be able to get harassment charges against the parents (but it might be a stretch...).

Answer 13

Wow, Skylar is my name too. It is normal for boys to want to play with guns, but this is going a bit too far to be saying die skylar die. That is just ridiculous. He does need therapy.