LDS wedding ceremony- is this a fairly accurate description? Isn't it a let-down compared to the wedding?

Question

every girl dreams of?

http://www.mormondoctrine.net/Misha

Answer 1

Every girl's dream turns into every parents' nightmare. After my sister's wedding, my dad offered me $1000 to elope. This was BEFORE I joined theLDS church.

I much prefer my temple wedding. As do the vast majority of LDS women.

After reading that story, I am thinking that this woman wasn't in love with her fiance, she was in love with having her dream wedding. There's a BIG difference.

Answer 2

This is one individual's experience.  

I don't think you can use this experience to generalize the marriage of other LDS couples.

I was married in the temple with my sweetheart.  It was wonderful and I wouldn't have had it any other way.  This individual seems have been spiritual immature about the process and could have used much better preparation.  Many of the events that happened could have been avoided with a little prepardness.

I also see it irronic that suddenly the author can remember the wedding ceremony.  'rolls eyes' - nice cut and paste job from some anti-site.  Apparently should would have rather liked the "till death do you part" ceremony.

I recently attending both a temple marriage and a ordinary marriage.  The temple I thought was spiritually uplifting and beautiful.  The wedding was about the two individuals.  It wasn't about the friends, relatives, and everyone else.  I'm not saying that they aren't participants, but marriage is between husband and wife.  It has turned into a huge social affair and often the couples are second thought when compared to the event itself.  On the other hand the "outside" the temple marriage was beautiful too.  It was in a lovely garden and all the family and friends were there.  The bride was my cousin so we attended all of the events.  The bride was frantic running here and there, and the groom was hangin out with his friends.  My poor aunt and the mother-in-law missed most of it as they scurried around administrating the social aspects of the event.  During the ceremony itself their "friends" whooped and whistled.  Their interuptions perhaps onset by a bit of drinking and early partying.  It was disruptive to the clergy who was performing the ceremony.  

I guess the point is, when it come to marriage one event can't be generalized to represent the whole.  Marriage is a solemn and sacred event.  It is for mature people who are willing to make covenants with each other and with God in the temple.

Answer 3

I agree with Alissa's answer.

And I've been to civil marriages, they are very nice and they are always a wonderful occasion. But when I look at the temple and the sealing room (*note* I've never been in one, I've just seen pictures) it just seems so much better and wonderful.

I guess it's just everyone's point of view though.

Answer 4

This girl obviously was thinking about a worldly wedding, not an eternal one, which is clear from her explanation of her "dream day".

I feel bad for her.  She doesn't even see the importance of what she did.

A temple wedding is for no one but the couple and God.  That's it.  Anyone else that gets to be there is just a luxury.  If she truly understood the gospel, she would understand that.

My dream wedding: Sitting across from my husband at the altar in the temple, knowing my marriage is going to last for all eternity.  That happened October 20, 2005.

Answer 5

The main thing for some Mormon Brides in the strange temple clothing had to be worn over your modest temple gown (or an approved wedding dress) And at the end of the sealing you are to join hands on the Patriarchal Grip. (mormon handclasp)

http://nowscape.com/mormon/mormcr1b.htm#...

Since only worthy Mormons can enter the temple, frequently many friends and family members - even parents of the bride and groom - are excluded from witnessing the ceremony,(young mormon siblings too) and must wait outside the temple, or in a waiting room at the entrance foyer. My Christian Mother and Grandmother could not attend mine.

Let me add this is why LDS incourage you and your groom to have you endowment done a few weeks before at least to let the costumes and strangeness set it...Because the shock on your wedding day could be to much.

Family FOREVER...only if their ALL Mormon!!

EDIT...

Well I just finished reading the girls story..WIth tears in my eyes this is all to familiar..I felt cold and ugly too...I had to tell my family "Im sorry too."  They were christians, trying to swallow my reasoning.

Other LDS on here can only say, "she did not memorize that!" "nice Copy and paste..."

Answer 6

When I was married in the temple I thought that it would be very grand after all, the temple is so huge on the outside, but when I was married in the temple it was different than that.

It was like going home.  Comfortable and meaningful.  Those I loved best were gathered around me in that room.  My fiance' and knelt down and held each others hands.  I cried when I saw the love in his eyes, and I knew that I wanted to be with him forever.  The temple official performed a beautiful ceremony and gave us good advice. After the ceremony we stood and looked into the mirrors. Their were two mirrors that reflect across from each other giving the impression that the reflection of you and your spouse goes on forever.  We kissed and hugged our friends and relatives who had joined us.  The spirit of the Holy Ghost was there that day, and I knew that I had been part of a very spiritual experience.

Like all young girls I imagined the big wedding and coming down the isle of a huge church, but after being married in the temple I would never trade it for such a wedding.  No manner of pomp can make up for the loss of  the way you feel when you are married in the temple and know that the one you love wants to be with you forever.  My marriage in the temple has helped me to battle through times when I did not agree with my husband.  I remembered my promises to him and chose to work through our problems.  I have been married for 25 years now, and have five children.  I can truly say that the best place in the world to get married is the temple.    

Answer 7

A lot of people who have family members who cant enter the temple will have a ring ceremony, if they don't do that they at least have a fancy wedding reception where the family is all included. Really, the family members are not missing out on much in the temple.

It's my dream :) My fiance and I are not worthy to go yet, but we're going to work on our issues until we can go there to get married. We've talked about having a civil marriage and then getting sealed in the temple later but that's just not good enough for us. That's how important it is.

Answer 8

Do you think your dream wedding is the same as everyone elses?  I hate big weddings.  I got married at the courthouse in a very small ceremony and it was a wonderful occasion.  

LDS women can look forward to their ceremony just as much as you get to look forward to yours.  Just because it would be a let down for you doesn't mean it wouldn't be a dream come true for some other girl.

Answer 9

Reading this girls perspective is rather sad & interesting.  She obviously and understandably had expectations and life long dreams of her wedding being a certain WAY, a certain "THING" which worldly way the temple certainly doesn't provide.  BUT if you are raised LDS and the most important thing in your mind and heart is the eternal bond & union that a temple marriage offers that the "world" does not and can not offer - then you would have been raised with a different perspective and you (she) wouldn't be let-down my the simple sweetness and beauty of a temple sealing.   Attitude and perspective is everything.  For you or anyone else to judge her or a happy temple couples views is really unfair and ignorant I think.

I think what you need to consider is that this young women allowed herself to DO something and GO somewhere she really wasn't ready, willing or prepared to do.  She needs to take the blame for that one and not point fingers at the temple ceremony or church or anyone else for this.  She needed to MAN-UP and just say NO I CAN'T AND WON'T DO THIS and she failed to do that, didn't she?  

I for one was married outside the temple and then later in the temple. BOTH are beautiful dear memories and each hold a place in my heart. She should have looked into alternatives to make herself happy and satisfied and followed her own gut and heart - she didn't do that. NO one forced her - she caved in!  Let call a spade a spade here shall we?

Answer 10

yes, that is a very accurate story.I have heard it time and again. I have many LDS friends. But, only one who will reveal the truth to an "outsider".

Answer 11

Every dream wedding is different.

My dream wedding does include getting married in the Temple and sealed to my husband for time and all eternity. Not all of my family is LDS so only a few would be there, but that's okay. It's the Lord's way.

As I scanned this blog, it seemed as if the author was more interested in a huge wedding, and that was the main objective, not the marriage and the purpose of getting married instead.