Ladies, Do You Agree With This Guys Answer?

Question

I asked a question a few days ago about being in love with a close female friend.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoBtAeGD8MBhrcZgVjXoPc_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080817090735AAGgQZS

This one guy wrote an interesting answer that got we wondering if some if not all he was saying was right.

But I want to know what some women think, since your the ones that matter.

Here's his answe to my question...

be a man and face the facts:- 1) for a woman to love u, u must pass certain qualifications from a woman's point of view such as, confidence on ur self, control over ur emotions, challenge to her feminine abilities, respect to ur self & ur life, firmness, steadfastness etc., 2) this woman did not seem to even bother herself about u all over these years, 3) women hate a man who appear or is desperate and hopeless. SHE MUST FEEL THAT SHE IS NOT EVERYTHING IN UR LIFE and that u have many other interesting things going on in ur life. 4) believe me, there are so many good and welling females out there, so do not stick to the idea that SHE IS THE ONLY ONE., 5) Work hard to wipe her completely out from ur mind by doing the following, a) do not keep any thing that reminds u of her this include; photos, letters, gifts, ornaments, videos etc. get rid of them very soon; b) practice any kind of sports everyday for at least 30 minutes even it is walking; c) practice deep breathing (4sets of 4deep breaths a day) if u email me I can give full instructions, this practice is very powerful, d) reorganize ur life in a healthy style, no smoking, no drinking, good norishment, early sleep & rise up, e) practice a hobby even if reading certain types of books, f) go out and meet and talk to people (men, women, old, young) it does not have to be long conversations, g) join any active voluntary or aid groups, h) take serious time and reflect back on ur relationship, check the positives & negatives form ur side and hers. see how her negatives have actually affected ur life (do this on a piece of paper,after practicing the breathing exercise);i) NEVER, NEVER TRY to go after her or call her or communicate in any way EXCEPT if SHE intiates it, then YOU MUST CONTROL ALL UR FEELINGS and DO NOT POUR UR HEART OUT TO HER, remember you want her as ur love NOT ur doctor or mother! j) remember that ur life and ur well-being is far more important than hers and should be seriously looking after ur own interests. These in brief are some essential points that u must consider if u want to regain ur life and self-respect & at the same time forgetting her. You never know, when she realizes that you are not bothering yourself about her and that you are taking good care of ur life, she may come running after you, BUT YOU will then accept her according to ur terms.

Answer 1

This looks like something to get a person completely out of your life! You obviously don't want that, so this answer is not appropriate for your situation. I agree with <have a nice day>. You should let her know that you have feelings for her. Even if she is scared, it only has to happend once with one person. Maybe you're made for eachother! And if not, you could still be friends in the end. I two have ex that I'm still good friends with! Anyway, good luck!

xox

Answer 2

Sorry, but I don't agree. It almost sounds like this is what he had to do to wipe someone out his life, how sad is that? If my best friend loved my like that and had been there for me through my toughest times, what more would I want than for him to let me know how much I mean to him and be loved by him. I would totally be afraid of the relationship not working, but if the friendship was strong and the relationship ended in good terms then why not continue to be friends. I have ex boyfriends that I'm still really good friends with, but that's part of love and life. It's about taking risk and finding out what is really there, if you don't perhaps you will miss out on something even greater. Tell her how you feel.

Answer 3

I don't agree with this guy's answer. You shouldn't lose a friendship of 10 years just because she's not ready to take it to the next level.this guy should open himself up more to other women and still be a good friend to this girl.

Answer 4

Personally, I would want the opposite of what he suggests. I would want someone to prove to me that he wants and needs to be with me. Flattery, surprises etc.... however, I can see how if you are close friends this could really shake up the friendship if you go this route. But if some guy was persistent about dating me, and went through the whole old school "wooing" process, I would feel very flattered and want to at least give him a chance. My opinion.