She is 27. She quit school for an easier life working for her brother in a coffee shop 48 hours a week while her friends have graduated and out in the real world. She's very pretty, but lazy and hoards everything. She broke up for the second time, her boy freind of 4 plus years, who just turned 24 about 6ft and weighs 330 pounds and is way below average in looks. The thing is, his family is rich! (I'm not kidding!) She recently invited me to come visit her 170 miles roundtrip to see her for a day. I stayed in a house where her brother is paying for her to stay in a rented house. Her living room is somewhat kept, but her room is the size of a queeens room, and it was full of make up, mirrors, cloths, clutter, and i mean...the room looked like a hurricane hit it. She smokes pot, and thinks alot about the past. Her bf used to control her, buy her, never wanted to do anything but smoke pot, eat, sleep and shop! She says she's dated a couple guys, but i'm not so sure. She has been sheltered all her life and is finding very difficult to get out into the real world on her own and make it without relying on a guy to take care of her. She mentioned that she would go back to school when she was married because the guy would support her. Her one girl friend she has, and confides in, told her she was lazy. I think she has some form of OCD or depression. She smokes that stuff too, and i think gets it still from this guy. The reason I'm asking, is, I dont do drugs. I don't even drink. I'm 34 years old and yes, i'm living at home, but graduating from college in may of 09 and already have a job making over 50 a year. No, it's not 100,000 year as an attorney that this kid she was seeing is going to be in two years, but I am also opening up my own little espresso drive thru in a year or two. I have been in love with her for several years and it's been two months since i seen her. I told her i was still in love with her. She knew it before i went over there but she still invited me. Now she makes excuses why she wont call me when i text her how she's doing or asking to visit her. she even forgot to wish me a happy birthday! She keeps telling me, I'm so so soo sorry everytime i ask her something. I asked her if, "she wanted me to leave her alone? I asked her that question twice with no answer, until i text her a coupe days later, and just told her, to text me if everything between us was ok. She texted me back with oh, i'm so sorry, busy, work, so so sorry. how are you. I have not heard from her the last 10 days. I think she's depressed. But i also think she's not right for me even though she told me i would be a good husband and i'm a giver. She hoards, and hoarders with OCD have a hard time with decisions or letting go because they fear they might need things or even people again like myself Or like her ex, who gives her pot. She seems to be in a rut. Does this make sense? I think i'm going crazy!!!! Ladies, would you all please help me with advice. She is sensitive, and i care about her, but i have a really in your face text that tells her exactly how it is. What should i do? Should i give her time?
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