Ladies, I need help with something? ladies only please?

Question

I went out on a date last night for the first time in a long time. I paid for everything. With the rules of a guy taking out a lady, what kinds of things do you expect of them/should they do and not do? What is the new unwritten/written expectations from your side should I consider?

Answer 1

This is what my father always told my brother. Every time you are on a date imagine you are being taped and that you will be graded on it.

So in other words make sure you act like a gentlemen.  On the first date you should pay, open the door, pull out her chair, offer her your coat, walk her to her door,and a light kiss on the cheek. Then as you become more comfortable with this women then she might begin to offer to pay( deny her and tell her next time.) You really should always open her door on every date( she will tell you if she doesn't want you to do it.) All we expect is to be treated with respect, and to be treated like a lady!

Answer 2

Well, you are automatically expected to do the following things:

Be kind and respectful

Treat her like someone you treasure most

Compliment her

Pay for some things... This one has me a little confused because I always liked the idea of the guy paying for movies or dinner... but me and my boyfriend don't work out that way...he doesn't like to pay for our dates so we go dutch. I get over that fact because I love him so much, but I dont really like that fact..it makes the girl feel massively special and important if the guy feels that she is worth spending money on.

But really, the most important thing that every girl wants is for the guy to be themselves.

Girls also want someone who will listen to them.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

These are a few simple things i think most women expect when dating

For him to pay or at least offer to pay for dinner all of the time(not necessarily for everything else we would like)

For him to not just expect s*x straight away in return/general

and for him to be polite and above all,jus his honest self

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Answer 4

Offer to pay for everything

Don't act overly amorous

Try to put her at her ease

Be gentlemanly

Make a real effort at conversation

Never mention exes unless it is positively and briefly

Show an interest in her thoughts, mind, life, job etc.

Greet her with a smile, but do not hug unless she initiates it

Do not assume it is okay to kiss and canoodle, show an interest in getting to know her first and wait for the end of the date before you offer a kiss, and -if she accepts- do not have 'wandering hands' - [leave it to her to initiate anything more than a kiss]

if it's cold or rains offer her your jacket

don't walk too fast

ask her what she wants to do, where she wants to go, what she wants to eat etc, always focus on her comfort.

Make sure you contact her the very next morning to tell her you enjoyed yourself, and if you want to see her again then make it clear in your message.

Answer 5

be polite

but listen to what she has to say

lean in when she talks

be positive in body language.

be open to what she has to say.

keep eye contact about 80 percent of the time.

dont talk about yourself too much, dont try to impress her with something, instead just share with her something.

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Answer 6

dont check out the other ladies.

dont wipe your nose on your napkin please.

dont chew with your mouth open.

open her door.

tell her how pretty she looks.

laugh at her dumb jokes.

when you take her home, walk her to her door.

and if you dont wanna do that, atleast open her car door. =]

Answer 7

If a guy were taking me out, i would want him to be himself. Just be yourself. Obviously guys should always pay especially on the first few dates- thats just the way it went down in history, so males get over your whole equal bullshit. Its just for the first 3 dates or so. It shows that your a gentleman. The girl should offer to pay after a few dates. If you guys are seeing each other frequently then you should be splitting the costs-she should not expect you to pay all the time that is very selfish and inconsiderate of her.

Just dont look like a bum, wear a dress shirt with jeans or something. And girls love eye contact its s**y, it shows your confident and that all your looking at is her-this will make her feel special. DO NOT check out other women! That is the worst! and make sure the conversation is always flowing- its awkward when your sitting there and no one is talking. First few dates should be at quiter places where you can hear each other and get to know one another....after this you can show her some more spontaneous places or take her out dancing and show her some moves!!! GIRLS love it when a man can dance with her but not look like a total fool. Dont go insane when you dance, concentrate on her...spin her around for fun, hold her hands.

My boyfriend will not dance with me and i hate it. He cares what other people think so much- he doesnt want to look stupid- guys who dont dance are weak and no fun.

Be confident not cocky- most importantly, be yourself and dont put on a fake act!!! Don't lie about things and be truthful!!!!

Answer 8

As far as I'm concerned, if a guy pays for everything on a date, all he can expect is honest gratitude.  If he's looking for another date, a kiss or even s*x, he can only hope, not expect.

Answer 9

Usually it's each to pay for their own or splitting the bill, or taking in turns. If you pay this date, she pays next date.

The only exception is if there is a huge disparity between incomes, in which case the lower income may pay for the cheaper things (like icecream afterwards).

Answer 10

I expect from him to offer to pay the dinner, be polite, be a good listener, want to talk for a lot of thinks, be sincere, make me laugh, hug me and try to kiss me if he sees i am impressed with him and not to be bored, not to have his attention on other women, not to keep silent without saying anything and also I want him to be self confident.

Answer 11

I expect a guy to pay, yes. I like a guy that will be nice to me and be generous. Something I hate that people (not only guys, girls tend to do it more) is go on and on and on about a story that should realistically only take about a minute or so.  Don't talk to much, but also don't act like a mime. Just be comfortable and confident. Confidence is s**y. That's the key. ;)

HIH,

Britt

Answer 12

1. Be polite

2. don't one night stand her expessily if she is drunk.

3. Pay for what she allows.

Answer 13

I think if you really dig the chick, you can pay.  If you are just wanting a casual date, talk about going dutch prior to heading out.  It's kind of a turn off if the guy is dutching all night and the chick thought it was a serious date.  On the otherhand, yeah, that could get expensive.  That's why you need to choose your dates wisely.  :)

Answer 14

Well.. I don't think guys should do everything, isnt everything like all this equal rights c**p these days?

Answer 15

dude, girls like basic things. like opening the door for her, pulling out her chair paying for whatever you two are doing, she will realy like that.

it will show her you are sweet and it shows her respect for being a woman.

good luck

Answer 16

if you asked her on the date, then you should pay. good for you for being a gentleman. she should offer to pay or give you something in return. not s*x, but like a gift or something. she should also thank you accordingly. if you are not loaded, she should offer to pay. at least offer. or contribute. there are no expectations. chemistry takes care of all the trivial stuff. if it is there, one might not even notice who picks up the bill.

Answer 17

Open doors,

polita conversation

don't oggle over other girls

make her feel pretty and special

put your arm around her

pay for her

talk to her like a person not just a girl

don't treat her like shes just another friend

ask her questions

don't get too posessive

don't make her nervous

don't get mad if a guy looks at her or talks to her, it just embarasses girls

make her feel like the only girl in the room

its great when a guy does these things, it makes me feel special so it should make any other girl feel great too :D good luck!!

Answer 18

I believe that if a guy asks out a girl, then it is considered a date and he should pay, unless they talk about it ahead of time and decide to go dutch.  I havent gone out on a date in so long, that I long for a guy to ask me and actually pay.  But the only other thing I would expect from a guy on a date would be for him to act like a gentleman and open up the door for me, pull out my chair, and just all around be respectful.  Definitely a kiss if he had a good time and to call for us to get together again.  

Answer 19

be sweet keep your attention on us! pay for everything and don't be boring...

Answer 20

be nice.

open doors.

be generally polite.

pay for things.

help us with everything we could possibly need help with.

dont try to show off.

dont look at other women.

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