Ladies, how much do looks matter to you? Does a guy have to be a 10 for you to love him?

Question

Or do you prefer for a male to have a little bit of character? Battle wounds if you will? Now we're not talking about weight, that is an entirely different subject all of its own valition, and we're not saying theres not a cut off point, but as a general rule, do you date only 10s or is personality what really matters?

Answer 1

Personality---humor, patience and kindness, love of children will get my knees to buckle every time.  A guy with a good brain is very s**y.

It's nice if he eats healthy and takes care of himself---that would be a bonus, cause then you both would encourage each other to be healthy.

I happened to think older guys are s**y----they have more character in their face and they are filled out in the body a bit more, but  personality wins hands down.

I would consider dating a guy with a great personality with a looks factor of, let's say 4 and up!  1 being a corpse. 10 being Paul Bettany.   Actually he'd be a 20-----just thinking about it makes me feel wooooozy.   I have to go pass out right now!

Answer 2

Gee no. I've never met a 10 man who wasn't vain or who seemed over confident just because of his looks.

Physical imperfections just make a person unique. So much more interesting to explore and get to know.

Answer 3

No, he doesn't have to be very good looking.  In fact, ostentatious good looks are a disadvantage  in a man as far as I am concerned, because that is likely to mean too much competition.  other women always hanging around, which is very tiresome.

However, obviously there has to be a reasonable degree of physical attraction.  I never went out with a man I wasn't attracted to, but he didn't have to be very handsome to attract me, and when i did go out with a couple of very good-looking men, I found it, as i said, to be a distinct disadvantage.

Answer 4

Looks don't matter to me.  I don't care if a guy looks like a goat...is he a gentle, sweet person?  Is he compassionate?

Does he care?  Is he capable of love?  THOSE are the things that matter to me.

Answer 5

ok i think that a guy has to be cute, virgin,compassionate, lovable, does not think girls are sexual objects and does not want kids!

Answer 6

Not a perfect 10 in the pretty boy sense. I'm not attracted to that.

I think their personality has a big affect on how I perceive them.  If they are masculine, (personality and physique) then that boosts the number!

Answer 7

Personality is tops, but I like my guy (or in my current stage husband) to be cute (not necessarily a 10). Battle wounds aren't anything special either though. And since you brought up weight, I like him to have something there. Currently his weight is hurting his health, so I have asked him to lose weight, but to not go below the weight he was before having issues, that I still enjoy!

Answer 8

To me my guy is a 12 all the way around :)

Answer 9

i have to fancy him obviously... but look are not always the first thing that attract me

my hubs isn't classically goodlooking. He's shorter than me. but he's got a daft sense of humour. He's extremely intelligent, he's my friend and we share the same outlook on life

and he makes me a cup of tea without me even asking

i find conventionally goodlooking men a bit bland.

Answer 10

you can be attractive and have character you know.

I find that there is always sometihng physically attractive and un attractive about something so i always try and look for the good rather then the bad. but they have to have a good heart to go along with there attractivness.

Answer 11

I never actually dated anyone but the man I married. His good looks are the icing on the cake. It was his handsome smile that first caught my eye, I'll admit, but as I got to know him I became more impressed with who he is, his character and mind and demeanor, than I was with his looks. Which is saying alot, because my man is eye candy! LOL Looks are nice but the person inside is more important. One day he will be old and wrinkled and grey and a bit flubby....if I care more about his looks than his heart, what kind of marriage will we end up with then?

Answer 12

I read this somewhere - Women become more and more attracted to the man they love, and men fall more and more in love with the woman they are attracted to. Not sure if it's completely true, but I thought it was interesting.

I don't go for the "pretty boys" if you will. I like normal looking guys, rugged outdoorsy types....but I'm really attracted to men that are taller than me, and muscles are always good. But personality comes first....humor, confidence, kindness...that sort of thing.

Answer 13

Even if I don't think a guy is cute at first, I can become physically attracted to him as we get to know each other. But if he was truly butt-ugly, that probably wouldn't happen.

Answer 14

of course he doesn't have to be a "10!"  But there has to be CHEMISTRY.  I have to be physically attracted to him.

and yeah, money is more important, to be honest.  money makes men much more attractive.  sounds terrible, but its reality, nature...